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I sent a Christmas gift to a cousin last year. Later in January, she sent me a gift. she then called to see if I'd received my gift. She told me she hadn't sent my sister anything, just me, because I sent her gifts. My sister never sends gifts, but she stressed she had sent mine because she had received one from me. I didn't expect anything but a simple thank you, ***** ***** feelings were hurt. Ws this very mannerly of her?

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I sent my cousin a Christmas gift last year and later in January I received a gift from her. She called to see if it had arrived. She explained she hadn't sent my sister anything. She had sent mine because I had sent her one. My sister never sends gifts. I didn't expect a gift, but this remark seemed to me to very unmannerly, and my feelings were hurt. I have just decided to "unburden" her this year if she feels this way. Have I misinterpreted her remark?

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Etiquette Expert: Marcy, B.A., M.S., J.D. replied 8 months ago
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HELLO THERE

YOU HAVE NOT MISINTERPRETED HER REMARK AND IT SEEMS LIKE YOUR SISTER ONLY SENDS GIFTS TO THOSE PEOPLE WHO SEND GIFTS IN RETURN. CHRISTMAS CAN BE VERY EXPENSIVE AND IT MIGHT BE MORE EFFECTIVE IF YOU ALL AGREE TO DO A "SECRET SANTA" AND PICK A NAME FROM A HAT SO THAT EACH OF YOU WILL RECEIVE ONE GIFT EACH FROM ONE OF YOUR SIBLINGS, THAT WAY THERE ARE NO ARGUMENTS ABOUT WHO RECEIVED A GIFT ORNOT,

I HOPE THAT HELPS. IF YOU COULD PLEASE PRESS A POSITIVE BUTTON AT THE TOP OF THIS q&A SESSION ABOVE SO I WILL PAY YOU FOR YOUR TIME. THANK YOU MARY

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