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When it comes to choosing an attorney the first thing you need to do is ask around about his credentials. The best place to do this is the local probate
court and speak to some attorneys. Second, ask friends who have had estates. Third, in your conversations with the attorney if he is coming off as rambling and confused as you say, then this is a bad sign. Finally, it comes down to comfort with the attorney, if he responds to you in a reasonable time and if he communicates with you and follows the direction you want to go in then this is important.
If your attorney is getting behind and is not doing what they are supposed to do, then this is good cause to terminate him and find another attorney.
If he is not citing case law or statutes to support his arguments, this is his professional discretion and every attorney has his own style and that is not something we can judge or comment on in this site as we cannot know sufficient facts to make that determination as there is no confidentiality here on this site to do so.
I would suggest if you are having bad feelings about this attorney, they are likely true and you need to go interview some other probate attorneys and you can even ask their opinion about your attorney without letting them know he is representing you and most attorneys will give you an opinion.
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