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My boss is gaslightening me. Telling me that I'm having a mental break down and that she advises I seek mental counsel. My boss has been in her position for 4 months. The first time she suggested this was the 2nd time we met

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My bosses boss. I work for a very large liquor company. I've spoke to colleges. I'm a male. She's a women. My colleges know nothing of me other than being mentally stable and offering sound advice

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Full time salary.

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I have a few memos Nothing too detailed. Instances of me seeking help in defencencies and the convo turning into me being insecure, manipulative, and needing mental counsel.

Submitted: 1 year ago.Category: Employment Law
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Customer reply replied 1 year ago
She also advised me to buy two books. One book focused on mental stability. The other being about getting motivated to find another job
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Employment Lawyer: Law Educator, Esq., Attorney replied 1 year ago
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For starters, you need to understand that ordinary workplace bullying is not legally actionable. The US Supreme Court has stated that the laws regarding workplace harassment/hostile work environment were enacted to protect employees from conduct based ONLY on the age/race/sex/disability/national origin of the employee and they were NOT intended to create a code of civility in the workplace. See: Oncale v. Sundowner Offshore Services, 523 U.S. 75 (1998)
So, in order to have a claim against the employer, you have to show this is not just ordinary bullying and she is treating you this way based on either an actual OR PERCEIVED disability (in this case) as she is accusing you of having mental health issues and she is harassing you based on that perceived disability.
Your recourse is filing a claim with the EEOC, since they must investigate and grant you a right to sue letter to sue the employer in court for harassment based on your perceived disability.
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Customer reply replied 1 year ago
To make a claim, what documents would I need to get in order. How would I document that she is actually making these claims. Multiple people are aware of the situation, and have admitting to knowing the statements that she has made. But this doesn't mean they would testify
Customer reply replied 1 year ago
Also, I feel that a lot of the current action is due to me blowing the whistle in the first place. This was 3 months ago.
Employment Lawyer: Law Educator, Esq., Attorney replied 1 year ago

Thank you for your reply.

You would need names of witnesses, if they want to give you a written statement you can submit those. You can use emails or other documents from the supervisor. However, you bear the burden of bringing whatever proof you can to the EEOC to prove your claims.

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