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Well, something is wrong here, but it may just be that your neighbor's wife has a horrible sense of humor. Everything here depends on how she became aware that your wife had surgeries and whether or not she is just making a very stupid joke, or if she is repeating something her husband said to her.
That can be very difficult to discern. If it is the first (just a horrible joke), there really isn't anything illegal about what she said. It's just something very stupid and insensitive to say.
If it is the second though, there could be a HIPAA violation that you could report to the hospital and allow them to handle the matter. You might consider reporting it, and then allow the hospital to do an investigation and find out what happened here, if anything.
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