Employment Law Questions? Ask an Employment Lawyer.
Hello and thank you for the opportunity to assist you. My name is ***** ***** I'll be glad to help if I can. What is your goal in this situation? I just want to make sure that I understand what legal information you are seeking. Thank you.
Do you believe that the harassment is based upon gender, race, etc.?
The reason I asked if the harassment was based upon gender, race, etc., is because only certain types of harassment is illegal. In most cases, your recourse would be to complain to HR, and then quit if you aren't satisfied with the response. However, if you were harassed because of your gender, for example, then that would be illegal, and you would have the right to file a charge with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC). The EEOC would investigate, and if they believe that you were the victim of illegal harassment, then they can help to settle this matter, or provide you with a right to sue letter that you can take to an attorney. So, the bot***** *****ne is that the motivation behind the harassment is quite important.
The reason I immediately thought about gender is because you were told that your question is "bitching." If your boss is a male, and you are a female, then I think that language is very questionable, and would probably give you grounds to file a complaint for gender discrimination. In that situation, I would contact the EEOC: https://www.eeoc.gov/employees/howtofile.cfm
Does that answer your question? Please let me know if you need clarification, as I am happy to continue helping you until you are satisfied.
Then I would indeed file the EEOC charge. The nice thing about that is that it is illegal to retaliate against you for doing so. Accordingly, if you get into trouble or are terminated for filing the charge, then that is a separate grounds for a claim against your employer.
You can file the charge by following the instructions in the website that I linked to earlier: https://www.eeoc.gov/employees/howtofile.cfm
You can wait or file immediately, but you may want to give them a couple of days to see how they handle this. They may put their foot in their mouths even worse.
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