After 15 years of marriage, my husband had a brief affair starting…

Thank you for your response. Please allow me to explain. This particular dream is a spiritual one of insight. As we know, God is not the author of confusion, and He will remain the same today and tomorrow. He is consistent in that, and when communicating with us, will not give you something contrary.

If the dream was to tell you that you are holding your husband back, he would not appear as a half man, half bull. The bull indicates the strong will, bullying, and intimidation. He is not this way solely because of you. This is his personal battle as well. I agree that you do in fact need to listen to him - how can two walk together unless they agree? If there is dissension, you both have to communicate, and come to an agreement as to how to proceed in this area. Throwing the cross doesn't show he needs to be free of your Christian morality. It shows he feels bound and wants to be free. Again, this is personal - not your fault. This kicks the door open to something deeper, and something many couples struggle with. Being happy in the area of intimacy. Some are raised to believe most things are morally incorrect in the bedroom. In actuality, the bed is undefiled and all things are a-go unless there is something one of you is uncomfortable with. This however, does include bringing another party into the bed, whether by means of porn or live. This act brings a whole new set of spirits into an atmosphere in which there should be just one - you and your husband's. So, if sexual prudeness is an issue, this matter should be discussed between the two of you and an agreement put in place on how to proceed. I know of many resources that will help here if you'd like. There are sites, books,etc. that speak to what I'm saying.

If you were the root of the dream, you would find yourself active in this dream. However, you are observing. The smoke entered your brother's head, not yours. This shows the insight to be about him (your husband), not you.

Does this help to clarify? If not, please ask and I will try to explain. If you would like those resources, just let me know.

Welcome back! I am glad you and your husband are making progress! Sexual issues take time to work through, and let me say you are such a wonderful woman for your patience and committment to help him through this. If he is open to counseling (both of you actually since this affects you as well) I hope you find a local professional that works for you two soon. You can also speak with the experts in the Mental Health group as well to some degree. :)

As for this dream, walls are symbolic of large obstacles in the dreamer's life. SInce it is coming toward him, the wall here also represents an issue he felt he couldn't escape. The white room represents your husband's innocence at the time. Dirt is more than likely a play on words for an issue in which the dreamer feels is 'dirty', and the roots represent the family. This recurring dream was your husband's subconscious expression of the family's dirty secret coming to him, trying to overtake him. Was there any resolution in this dream? I am curious as to what took place to cause the dreams to stop.

I hope this helps to shed some light on something so pronounced in your husband's young life. If either of you have any questions please feel free to ask. Be blessed, and sweet dreams!

Sexual sin is a tough one to endure. YOu definitely need someone to talk to but you also need to strategically be there for your husband. Don't give any leeway as far as fantasies involving others or any other adulterous behavior. His actions show he is looking for something, and it can be as simple as a way to regain his innocence. It can be to fill a hole. I pray therapy is beneficial to you.

As for the long distance affair, I cannot advise, but my opinion is that this is an absolute no-no. What is it he is looking for with her? To be open sexually? To accept him? He needs to look to God to fill the holes, therapy to help stop the damaging behavior and he needs to look to you for intimacy and acceptance.

The branches simply say he is not the only one in the family with this issue and it is more of a generational curse - it runs deep. I pray your strength and patience.

I wish you well! If you have any other questions please feel free to ask. Sweet Dreams!