Thanks for your reply. This is a very long response. But I am keen to explore what these dreams might mean.
I have had these jumbled up dreams for years, they cause me little trouble, and I rarely wake in the night from a dream and if I do turn over and fall straight off again. Often the source of amusement with my previous partner when I related them to her in the morning. Although I do wonder if they cause me low mood on a morning, see later in e mail.
I am happy to top up the contribution, if you can assist me further with this.
Yes, the Range Rover dream seems very prison like, when I relate it. But it did not seem like that at the time. The strangers were all friendly. Maybe it’s indicating that I am “complying with unrealistic requests” ??
I have looked up my notes relating to this recent batch of remembered dreams, if I do not write them down, I have forgotten them by the time I eat breakfast!
Sat 26th March - The train Dream I mentioned in my first e mail.
Sun 27th March – The nose picking dream
Monday 28th March is typical of the variation within the dreams. I describe this at length so you can an understanding of the detail and variety in one dream.
Lots of people I don’t know, but yet I know they are all relatives. How I know I am not sure! (I come from big family and most unusually I DO know all my relatives right through to 3rd and 4th Cousins!) At my sisters house but not their current one (That they built and have lived at for 20 years, there is talk of them moving to a smaller home) This house in the dream is old, low beams and my sister keeps saying how expensive the lights were but that she is pleased with them.
Lots of animals arrive and some try and bite me.
The central theme is that we are there for a christening; how I know this I am not sure. There is no baby in sight!
Then dream moves on and I realise that I am in a cramp bedroom with lots of people and old bibles.
One person is persuaded after much argument to give something away that he got as part of a box of junk. Much more argument. But once he has given it away, he is very happy he has done it.
Party carries on.
Now I am over hearing a discussion of someone talking about having to buy a house because of a job move. Paid a lot for it, but done now. He says.
Thursday 29th March
At a Primary school, very modern building and all parents stay and socialise in open plan room and spectator on the class being taught!
I need to go and use a toilet, not normal, very big, 6 times normal size and I have to pee through a hole in floor while attempting to hold door shut, afterwards have to hold door shut so a small child can use the toilet.
I then want to go and suggest to other parents we should now go, but they say they will be staying. Wake up.
Easter Sunday
Was the range rover dream.
Looking at my notes this started of at the entrance of a muddy camp site.
Then the range rover bit I told you about, then somehow we are back at the camp site and next to the camp site is a river with two boats on.
One turns around and scrapes past the other damaging the paint.
Then I get given this ship to Captain. Wake Up.
Last Night was unusual in so far as it was NOT jumbled, a very clear story line. I was in a war zone, ducking down from the gun fire. Some one came up behind me and starting shooting and missing me. I got hold of him and twisted his head and broke his neck. This is very violent for me and for my dreams. I looked down at the body with regret and then shrugged, thinking if I had not he would have killed me.
What I find most odd is that when I wake from such a dream it is not in a state of shock or trauma, I am quite calm and possible in a better mood than when I can remember no dream!
Clearly I dislike being shot (Stabbed) in the back. This could relate to the deceit of 2 years ago, but why dream about it now, is it because I have started this discussion with you?
You asked about my life. This has been varied to say the least. I am 50. I come from a privileged back ground. Failed at School. Dyslexic.
We had a full time gardener and two cleaners at home. My parents often had charity events at home and it was not unusual as a small child for “my home” to be full of strangers. Many of whom were significant business people, but I did not know this at the time. I was expected to help “Host”. This gave me an ability I have only just recognised as a skill. I thought every body could walk into a room full of strangers and find it fun! I had to have it explained to me, that most people find it anything but fun. I now use this skill to host breakfast networking for senior business people in York.
When not at home. My school holidays were spent at my fathers business, working in the workshops, pumping petrol and spending a lot of time out on the Lorries, delivering farm machinery.
Thus I have always moved and mixed with ease with all kinds of people.
Left home at 16.
Worked for two agricultural machinery dealers before going to work for the family business, doing the same thing.
Very capable in practical things. Drove cars at 6! In charge of large workshop at 19, stepped in because Service Manager became ill and left at start of harvest.
Then went home and worked for my Father for 3 years, in a sales capacity then persuaded him to sell family business, as it was losing money as it had not moved with the times. Big trauma for me, as I thought this would be my life.
I always wanted a Red Range Rover; I had one a few years ago. I no longer like the new model Range Rovers I particularly dislike Black Cars.
Had a sales job for 18 months selling industrial cleaning equipment, did well in this job and then I started my own business in communications, and have suffered ups and downs like many business people.
I got married and divorced and had twin daughters the 18 months old, now 17 years old. Have remained single since then. Moved to live near my daughters, will move back to York in a year or so when they go to university.
I have had a number of short term relationships, and then met someone who we both felt was going to be a relationship for life.
2 years ago. I lost a business and as a result of all the stress the relationship that meant a lot to be also ended.
If that was not enough, at my lowest ebb I was badly deceived by an individual and lost what little I had left.
I am now lorry driving while building back a telecoms customer base. Having got over the shock of it all, things are starting to come together for me and I am enjoying life again.
Lorry driving might be difficult for many people, but actually I mix this quite well with telecoms work and expect to be able to focus full time on telecoms business again with 18 months, maybe less.
The Kaye family has a history of depression, which I also appear to suffer from, but which I manage without drugs by doing all the things that are recommended. Drink water, eat well, and regulate sleep. Exercise often and work hard at maintaining a positive mood, taking steps when it starts to sleep, to change my activity and attitude to ensure I do not fall “too far”
I sleep very well, often fall straight asleep, rarely have any difficulty getting to sleep and sleep soundly for 6 – 8 hours as required.
Before going to sleep, I will often plan the following day, and maybe even do a “To Do” list to help with the depression. I go to bed with a good mood. However when I wake often I have a low mood.
Last November I felt suicidal and went to the doctor as a result of some counselling realised that the depression is worse than I realised but I handle it well, better than most people, and have again declined the drugs. I would rather feel that I am not well and do something about it, rather than disguise the problem.
Very simplistic view of a very complex issue, but hopefully all that’s needed here.
The Range Rover dream was significant for me, because on that morning as soon as I realised my wallet was not lost my mood lifted. If I now wake in a poor mood and cannot remember my dreams. I assume that I have had some sort of disturbing dream and blame my poor mood on the dream and then raise my mood. So to that extent these peculiar dreams have final helped me!
I never get a repeat of the same dream. The only aspect that repeats in different ways are problems with my teeth; falling out mainly.
Is my low morning mood likely to be dream related?
I have been told that dreams are our un conscious mind giving us cryptic clues to help us with out life? Do you hold this belief?
Also I have been told in the past, that a dream holds the opposite story to the truth, such as above, me being violent, but in reality I am not a fighter at all? Or the family situation where I don’t know anybody but in reality I do know my relatives.
Alan
ps Are you UK or USA based?? Not that it matters just curious!