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Regarding getting a copy of your medical records - you will only need to visit the hospital records department and make a request for your records.
Regarding the access of your medical records by your ex husband and his wife, that is a clear HIPPA violation. You can report the facility for this using this link (you may even be entitled to damages).
If this information was used to cause further damage, you may want to consider speaking with a personal injury attorney. Emotional damage claims are difficult to prosecute because the damages are inherently difficult for a court to assess (very bluntly, the dollar amounts are usually low making the high costs of litigation usually not a good cost/benefit analysis, if coupled with a defendant that cannot pay an award, it usually makes litigation not worth it). But a local attorney would be the best person to go and see to at least get a formal opinion based on all of the facts (including what exactly was said or published, what exactly the damages are, and what exactly the likelihood of collection would be) - do not rely solely on my "general information" I only provide the analysis above so that you have a better idea of what an attorney may be considering when reviewing your case.
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