I was hoping to have heard from you, but I can give you a preliminary answer at this time, and you can reply with follow ups if you need clarification or would like to give me more information and/or ask a follow up.
Unfortunately, as a criminal lawyer, I don't get to give a lot of good news either to customers or clients. The criminal justice system is a harsh one. Criminal defendants are not supposed to like it, and they have plenty of reasons not to.
Probation is a hugely powerful organization, and if you are sentenced to probation, it controls your liberty. Many probationers complain that their PO is on a power trip and that they are treated rudely or unfairly. While they are/you are probably entirely correct in your analysis, in my experience, the quickest way to get your probation officer off of your back is to do as you're told without complaining about it. Then your PO will pick on someone else and leave you alone because he or she will know he can't push your buttons and provoke an incident.
With strong-willed people there is a tendency to want to push back when someone comes at you the way your PO does. I understand why you want to react that way, but you can't. All of the cards in the deck right now are held by the department of probation. If they cannot work with you, you can be violated and end up doing more time in jail.
Probationers are almost entirely without rights. The most important right they have left is a right to a hearing in front of a judge if you think your PO's dictates are unfair. A judge has the power to order a change of your PO, which he may well do because of the very unusual circumstances behind your case.
You need to talk to your lawyer and decide with him if you want to make an issue of this by bringing this up in front of the judge.
I'm sorry not to have better news for you, but being expected to do as ordered is a given when you are on probation or parole. Go with the program, and your PO will ease up. Otherwise, you need to brainstorm with your lawyer to see if he thinks a change of PO will solve the problem or whether there are any other non-incarceratory alternatives in view of your medical history.