I have a good friend that has been in an abusive relationship for over 10 years, although, her husband has never hit her-his anger has caused many items in their house to be destroyed and he has verbally abused her for about 10 years, not allowing her to do things, have complete control over her and always the constant threat. Last year, he pulled a gun
on her and threaten to kill her if she did not do as he said and he was than arrested and spent a little more than 4 months in jail, until a friend of his bailed him out. There is a restraining order on and he has recently pleaeded guilty to one felony count of roberry with using a gun. He is currently awaiting disposition and it is not clear whether he will or will not receive additional jail time. He might just get time served with probation. In pass experience, does the restraining order usually stay in effect during the probationer period.
And, to further fuel the problem; she is seriously thinking about getting back with this guy to give him another chance as she feels jail has changed him. Although, they have have not seen one another, they have talked by phone and he is argumentative on the phone, barking orders and being completely in control as he was before hand. It makes no sense why she would want to get back with him and she even admits it probably will not work out. To make matters even more insane, she is the wage earner in the family, as the guy does not work and they have no children.
I am so fearful of her life if she goes back to him. That is why I would love to know what the judges usually do in these situations as I realize if the judge and prosecutors necks are on the line if something would to happen with my friend.