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I am glad to see you are on line. Consulted you earlier in the year about my daughter. She was the campus coed who was in a violent relationship with another coed, and after a night of violent assault, the campus never called my husband or I and as a result he got to her first and apologized, and then his family went to work on her and emotionally manipulated her, told her he loved her, he would change and she still thought they had a future together. He and his family got her to help with him deal. Latter on after he got the plea deal he dropped her and told her that he was only using her to get a deal, he got what he needed and to get lost. She still had time to press charges on campus which she did. This turned into a circus, but it ended with him being kicked off campus for a year, he has to take certain classes and then he has to reapply. My daughter has been emotionally stuggling since and entered the counseling services at school.Submitted: 9 years ago.Category: Criminal Law
They started her on an antidepressents, and Aderall( for ADD-nonhyperactivity type). She has been diagnosed with ADD since 2nd grade,testing at Kennedy Krieger(John Hopkins Affiliate). She has never taken ADD meds before but had been an antidepressent for a short time in high school. In HS she was diagnosed with Anxiety, depression, with thoughts of suicide ideation. All this educational testing was subitted to the her college, so they have these diagnoses on file. When they started her on the Aderall, a low dose 10mg tab., it was not working so they told her to increase to 20mg, so she took two tabs at the same time. They did this up to 40mg. When I found out I was upset because after 10mg when the dose is increased, you go to a Time/sustained release cap so all the med does not peak at once. Needless to say she was on an amphetamine rush! She was already low in weight 92lbs and dropped to 90lbs. She is 5"2'. I couldn't believe they did this. Well this got straightned out. Because of the nature of the drugs she has been put on you can not get scripts early and you can not call in the aderall to the pharmacy you have to renew in person. My daughter kept telling campus counseling she needed scripts to renew because a four day week end was comming up(this was mid Oct.) and the Psychiatrist would not be on campus. They ignored her. So she ran out of meds,and abruptly stopped her antidepressents, and was trying to spread her aderall out ...she was off the meds until the returning week when the psychiatrist was there. Needless to say she had reactions, where she became emotionally labile and difficult to be around. I was very upset and spoke with her counselor how inappropriate and unsafe this practice was. Especially since my daughter did the right thing and tried to explain to them that she was going to be with out meds. Took almost another two weeks to get back to a therapeutic level. So my daughter has been on an emotional roller coaster which is exacerbated by the mismanagement of her meds . She is also not sleeping at noc, having flashbacks to being abused, noc sweats, and nightmares. During this time her roomate who is 18 showed up at school with 6 bottles of hard liquor. Vodka, whiskey, rum !!! She is a party girl who parties on a regular basis. She comes in at two, two thirty in the morning and wakes my daughter up who is already getting no sleep. My daughter started driving home frequently to get sleep....some times awaking at 2 am and driving home then. We are sixty miles from the school. All adding to my daughter's emotional well being in a negative way. My daughter has been having alot of trust issues. Also,she has been increasingly saying things like ,this isn't worth it anymore, sometimes I feel like ending all of this. Both her roommate and the counselors on campus knew about this. One time when my daughter was home and we were at a wedding the roomate called my husband and told him that my daughter was driving around in a car and talking about hurting herself. We called a neighbor who said her car was at home. We went home immediately and found my daughter, Happy, Engaged in doing home work. My husband called the counseling service at school and reported the room mate that Monday, who also sees the same counselor as my daughter. He also asked the counselor if we had any needs to be concerned, she said no. Then two weeks before Thanksgiving, my daughter has a boy she has known for along time , a friend who she likes. She had him back to her room on a Friday where they watched movies, and kissed. She came home that Sat and was very Happy. Returned to school on Sunday where her roomate sits her down and tells her, that she went over to the same boys room and then brought him back to their room and "Hooked up with Him". The roomate knew my daughter liked him and had been with him the night before. The roomate told her, I came clean, you need to get over this, and you need to forgive me. My daughter took this as a bad emotional blow. She told the room mate I am not going to forgive you today. Verified with the boy it was true and told the boy to get lost. The roommate became mad because my daughter would not talk to her. So Mon. morning in bathroom she told her again you need to forgive me, we are room mates and you have to get along with me. My daughter said no. She reported this to her counselor. That Mon. Noc the room mate and two other friends blocked my daughter in the room and told her she needed to deal with this and forgive her roommate. Again my daughter said no and demanded they let her out of the room. She reached a low and started doing research on advil overdose with suicide. Her roomate and friends knew this. (Also other hallmates were mad at the room mate for what she did with this guy. She also told my daughter that it didn't count because she had been drunk that night)My daughter went on Tues to her counselor and reported them blocking her in the room. She reported how she felt low...and told the counselor that she had counted Advil and just wanted her room mate to stop, and wanted people to stop using her and treating her badly. By tues. the counseling services have my daughter increase her antidepressents and put her on a very stong sleeping pill Trazadone. They both have side effects of suicide! Then on Tuesday noc the roomate who has gathered more people came into the room with the people she gathered and told her that the counselor knew they were doing this and she needed to turn herself in and go with them to the counselor who was waiting in a different building, quite a distance from their dorm. They told her she had problems, was mentally ill and acting crazy and needed to deal with reality. They told her she is miserable and makes everyone else misrable and she needed mental help. My daughter told them all to get out, she packed up stuff to come home and one girl stayed to talk. This girl that the roommate brought into this situation had no idea what the roommate had done on the weekend. She started to realize that the roomamte had a hidden agenda. The friend called my husband who was away on buisness who called me. Eventually I spoke with this girl( the friend). She said that the roomate called her and was concerned about my daughter and that she need ed mental help and that she needed her to help convince my daughter to turn herself in. She never told her how she went and hooked up with the guy my daughter had been with the noc before and how she demanded that my daughter forgive her. My daughter came home that noc...she was upset but ok. I called the counselor on Wed. and I did find out that the counselor did know that the room ate was planning this intervention. She said they came to her concerned and she told them that she was on campus late that noc and they could have my daughter come over and talk to her. I was livid...how could she sanction an intervention by coeds with no professional. I said after what the roomate did this past weekend and then them blocking her in the room on Mon. both which the counselor knew about. This is so unprofessional. The counselor tells me that my daughter was counting advil on Monday and residental life has been alerted acording to the policy...she will not elaborate more. I say wait a minute...you are saying my daughter was counting pills and no one calls her parents, but you are letting a coed handle this, a coed whom my daughter is having problems with. I said the roomate has a hidden agenda. She doesn't care anything about my daughter. She as been cruel, keeps waking my daughter up. Taking her things, told my daughter she needed to get over being raped, her father died and that is worse than being raped! I told the counselor, this is not good. Why have not my husband or I been notified. She assured my that after talking to my daughter that she felt my daughter was safe and would not harm herself. Then I said why did you let them hold this intervention. She wouldn't answer. My daughter saw her latter that day and was very angry at the counselor, who she said violated her trust. How could the counselor do this. My daughter also meets with the psychiatrist that day. She also tells the psychiatrist that she is upset. My daughter sleeps at home Wed noc. Sleeps on campus Thurs. Noc and Fri. Noc. Sat am I get a call from the school that my daughter is being brought to the ER as a drugoverdose/ suicide. I get a cal from the Er nurse who asks if my daughter has ever been sexually assaulted. She tells me, my daughter is awake and fighting everyone. Yelling at us like we are going to assault her, she is showing signs of post traumatic stress disorder and says the suicide thing does not make sense. My daughter is drunk though. This is to the best of my knowlege what happened. Daughter( who is 19) and two friends start drinking, roommate bought liquor with fake ID. They all want to go onto another on campus party that my daughter does not want to go to, friends of the boy who assaulted her are there. She is tired. has not sleep in a week. She says she will just call it a noc and go to sleep. Then the next thing she knows she is being awoken by a bunch of people. She starts fighting them and kicking and trying to bite them. They hand cuff her, she gets out of handcuffs and they rehandcuff her. I was told by school an ambulance was bringing her to ER, but we found out latter that she was brought in by patrol car. When we get there the ER doc says that this makes no sense. He said nothing your daughter is doing is consistent with a suicide. She is just drunk and not showing any signs of drug or alcohol overdose. He said with the meds she is on she would not be awake and alert. She was originally hard to arouse when they first found her in her dorm room. They called for the ambulance and the sheriff to put an order on her so she could be forced to go to the hospital. The ER doc said she was showing signs of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. They released her with in two hours of admission, we live more than an hour away. She did not have any interventions done. Latter we find out that the roomate made an anonymous call to public safety from a Town House on the other side of campus...and said she thought my daughter was committing suicide. They had to act. My daughter denies any attempt on her life that night...she didn't even take her sleeping pill that noc. The roommate told people, we don't know what is in her campus police statement they will not give that to us, that my daughter drank 1/5th of Vodka and was swollowing all these pills when she left the room. Noone can collaborate this story. So now...my daughter can finish out the school year, keep her room but not go in any residential halls so how does she get to her room. She can continue to dance. She was told if she recieved outside psych clearance she could come back...which she did , then they said their counselors said no and they can not use the outside psch clearance who is a liscenced psychiatrist. They said they will reevaluate her by early Jan. I said what about the fact that the roomate filled out a false police statement that now has impacted my daughter's life. I said drinking is wrong, but her roommate was drunk too and she bought the liquor. She had been harrassing my daughter all week and holding interventions on her. I said no one from the school has ever called us to tell us our daughter is activly acting out on suicidal behavior. The ER doc said the whole pic does not make sense. She refused to go to hospital so she is paddy wagoned there. I said what about all the other drunken passed out coeds on the campus that noc...are they getting Judicial actions. What about the fact she is showing Post Traumatic Stress from an assaulat that happened on your campus. What about the fact that your counseling services keep mismanaging my daughters meds and by doing this you put my daughter in a compromised position in which she was acting out on. What about this intervention that the counseor sanctionedby not telling the roomamte that this was inapproprite and violation of trust from your counseling service. You increased her meds and the side effects are suicde, what is the schools role in all of this. My husband and I think we need a lawyer. The school has shown so much negligence. Now we find out that my daughter's counselor is not liscened, she works under another counselors liscene. A person my daughter has never met, and she was never given the right to refuse a nonliscened counselor because she did not know this. Meanwhile they tell her she has to go to counseling or she will not be able ot be on campus at all. I went and met this counselor. She was mad I came. She talked down to my daughter..and refuses to let my daughter talk about her roomamte and what the roommate did. I said this is not right , you can't tell my daughter this. She said yes I can. She said my daughter was very angry and hard to deal with. I said well how else is she suppose to act with all that has happened to her...and isn't therapy suppose to be where you get angry.....she wouldn't answer. Now alot of coeds are comming up to my daughter and saying why are you being mean to Alex, she tried to say your life. Alex keeps spinning things out of control and my daughters' reputation is underconstant criticism and very cruel things are being said. We don't know what kind of a lawyer to get. But somehow the school should have to hold some level og accountabilty hear. They have no proof or any evidence that backs up that my daughter was trying to committ suicde. She was also told that if she has any signs of suicide ideation she can not stay on campus, which is crazy since we handed over her educational testing that hasd this diagnosis in it prior to the start of her freshmen year there and the counselor basicly said if she acts out or reports bad feelings then she is immediately off campus...so who does she go to like that Tues. when she said I felt really low and I did this.
So...if you can make any sense of this and tell us whayt type of lawyer to talk to. Educational, Malpractice, Civil Rights?