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The problem with catching people doing something like this.. Is that if they are knowledgeable enough to pull it off. Then t hey are also knowledgeable enough to hide their ip addresses using proxies, or tor clients. meaning, youd only catch some anonymous ip address accessing and controlling your devices.
And even if you could catch and prove anything. You would need to involve the FBI cyber crimes division, and unless theres a lot of money, business, or national security involved. They tend to look beyond us normal people who have these types of issues.
I would think that when you talk about catching the person doing this, thats a route youd want to explore with law enforcement.
If however youd like to take steps to stop this from occurring.. That is something I can help you with.
I look forward to your reply and continuing this conversation further.
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