YOU ARE CORRECT ,THE FLYWHEEL IS THE PROBLEM HERE .
WHEN YOU SAY WHEN YOU PUT IN GEAR THE NOISE STOPS BECAUSE THE FLYWHEEL IS UNDER LOAD AND IS BETTER BALANCED UNDER LOAD Take the trans out and change it , they are not crazy expensive your local parts store should have it in stock
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