This happened two years...
This happened two years ago, my ex girlfried physicially mentall and financially and socially abused me for years but i never really thought that much of it, i knew she was very to the point and i dont bruise easily so no big deal we had a child, it was moost important to keep his family together, so i "ate that" for years. she tried to get help from psyciatrist and medication but none worked. then on day she satred a huge fight and started pumching me in the chest then the face, i grabbed her upper arms as a defence and she ripped out of my hands and felll hitting her hip on the counter. anyoone who knows her knows what she like and what im like. but she called the cops on me and tokk my child back to another province under the guise of leaving because i hit her "which when you say i hit her people assume i generially hit her" and i was so distraught. going through court not knowing where my son was and ended up never being charged but she still left with my child, i didnt want to argue with her and i was given the impression she would make it ugly. so i paid chi;ldsupport oevr a 1000 a month.and did what i could to try and have our sons lifre settle down. i am unable to leave as the 6 months to a year before she leftf she racked up my credit to where im paying over a 1000 a month just for loans. and to travel every two months to see my son cost me 3000plus. so she just had another kid with her new boyfriend. me and him get along well,, but she doesnt like that our son likes my girlfriend and she is starting to not let me take him back home.. like xmas coming up i get him for a week but she sais i have to stay in oontario? do i have any recourse or have i waited too long to apply to get my son back? he was born and raised in alberta, and never got my permission to leave. but was two years ago on dec 11, is there anything i can do to get my son back? or because of added cost for all our loans in my name( we were common law for 5 years) and the cost to travel to see him being more than child support.. like is the anything that ccan be done t her covering some of the travel, or comman law payments? and if there is can i keep payying it all myself but use it to egt more acess tto my child? the court in no way restricted acess to my child whatsoever. we worked tpgether five years and when our boss founf out what she had done she wasnt weklcome there and i got a promotion to stay, again she has a history. pls let me know what my options are..
Lawyer's Assistant: Has an emergency custody motion been filed?
No nothing. we wrote up a hand written agreement together. because we could afford lawyers at the time and figure we could be adults and figure it out for our son. which is basicially i pay the child support, and i get him a week month max and minimum one week every three months.(because of the cost of going it is hard) and trying to get that much time off work, doesnt make paying for all that easy. butthat is what we agrred on, just to let things settled down and not have to go to court. but with her starting a new family she starting into he cant travel here as much cause she cant fly with him, it was agreed when he comes here she would pay ot bring him here and i would pay tpo bring him home, but that is basicially once a year when he stays with me for a month in the summer. but after a few trips to toronto its just cheaper to fly him her even if i go get him myselfl and fly him home which is 6 flights a triop. about 1700 but is beter than 3500
Lawyer's Assistant: The Family Lawyer will be able to walk you through that. When did this happen exactly?
Sorry for the typing and autocorrect, i am a ,mechanic and gtype with two fingers lol,
Lawyer's Assistant: Anything else you want the Lawyer to know before I connect you?
Dec 11 two years ago is when she left with him. no not really. technicially more than two finger in a forward motion touching someone is assault i found out. so tecniacially evn though i grabbed her arms to stop her from hitting me i shounld have left and called the cops but i couldnt call the cops on the mother of my child. i helped her out of an "abusive relationship when we got together" though now im not sure he even hit her she never had any marks but sad he kicked her in the stomach but the cops told her to leave. and she got pregnant very fast withher new man as well and i feel bad that this may happen again. i can hear them fight sometimes in the backroufnd when i facetime, gage at night. but i went in and made my own police report spoke for two hours recorded without alawyer cause i never hit her, i was the one taking the abuse the whiole time i spoke with the psycologists and drug guy etc everyone got the same story and some of the shit she said i did was physicially impossibe in our house my lawyer wanted me to fight it so they would request her to come back but i was worried if we both ended up getting in shit what would happen to our son so i just ate that too but ended up was never charged and i had to go to a group thing for 1hour a week for tenm weeks, and learned about all the different form of abuse i was taking from her that i didnt even realize was abuse.. i feel so cheated by the system i dont even know what to think, how could someone with a history of these things and a common knowledge around work and our friends and her family as well that she blows up all the time, uncontrollably. and she makes one accujsaation and she gets custody of my child. i was the good parent. we were split up for about a month mutuially before this happend, and we ppalned in staying living together till after christmas when we could afford to try and get seperate places. then after that day she left me with all the bills the lease 1200 for new fone just bought three weeks before. 1200 for daycare that he wasnt even there for, but loans for last 6months or a year. etc etc etc..