Hello Wendy: We are in Vernon B.C. No charges have been laid against me. The police said there were no grounds. However, if you read all the letters against me, you would think I should have been put away long ago.
Aug 4/08 I did have a verbal argument with one woman in unit4. Yes I did put my hands on her and shove her. Her letter states I was screaming names at her and her dog, and went after her twice. This was not the case. I was mad and did yell, but I did not go after her twice. I put my hands on her shoulders and pushed her against the wall. She says in her letter that she apologized to me , far,far from the case. For over three years this woman had taunted and harassed me over many different things. She had a dog that barked constantly. Any one walking by her yard was subjected to this dog violently charging at the fence, thank God there was a fence. When I was a kid, there was a dog that would do the same thing. One day the dog broke through the fence and attack one of my friends, the injuries were sever, and the dog was put down. This stayed with me, and every time the dog from unit 5 would attack, I would be terrified. I tried to make this clear to the Board, and Theresa. I was scoffed at.
It turned out to be my fault for using the sidewalk. Nothing was settled. They sent me a letter saying that it was my fault , and that I should not walk by , not able to use the hose that is by their place . It is common space , the hose is there and the walkway to go from back to front of the property. Theresa is her name. She spread it around that we were bouncing cheques - not true. Said terrible things about us and others . Even though this is a chemical free (for lawns and gardens) zone , she told me I could use anything I wanted, I didn't have to listen to that old bitch Pauline, and then denied it, calling me a liar.
All kinds of this type of thing for over three years.
When Jack and I tried to talk to her about her dog, she taunted me some more , and I snapped. I had my hands on her,I realized what I was doing . Jack grabbed me, I stopped , and went home , writing an apology note right away. I took it back to Jack as he was still talking to her. He gave her the note. I have a copy, it reads. " Theresa I am very very sorry for putting my hands on you, I should not have pushed you. I apologize for my actions. I guess three years of you treating me badly pushed me over the edge. This will never ever happen again. I'm sorry , Mo
Just about all of her letter is untrue , makes me out as a maniac.
June 4/10 Another dog in unit 6. Once again barking constantly. At 5:45 a.m. we are woken up . I went over rang the doorbell. Lori came to the door. I said Lori it is 5:45 your dog has woke us up again. She told me to f**k off and slammed the door. Her letter says that I laid on the bell. Well her daughter and 2 grandchildren had no idea I was there. Laying on the bell should have woken everyone. Then she goes on to say I was swearing at her and the dog, shaking my finger. She then says I laid on the bell again, then walked away glaring at her. She went on to say I had done this before. This is not true. One day in the back yard I let her know that her dog was waking everyone up long before 7:00 a.m. That was it.
Honest to God these letters are so over the top.
Now to get to this eviction. Nov. 2011 our old neighbors were moving out. Dan and Andrea. At the last meeting at the co-op they told everyone that Jack and I were the best of neighbors. We were very loving and kind to their 3 girls , and that they would miss us.
In moved Derek and Jill and their 3 girls. It took a while to get to know them. And when we did, everything was fine. We all got on , the girls , especially the 2 little ones were having a ball with us. This went on until late July of 2012. At that time the smallest,Rosie, was four. One day I looked out the window and here she was, naked and alone. Her mom and dad and sisters were on the other side of the building . She was out in the far corner of the property for 25 min. naked and alone. I couldn't take my eyes off her I was so afraid for her. This was not the first time we had seen her naked. Right out front of the building on a very busy road, with no parent in sight. It bothered me so. It took me 2 days to get up the
courage to talk to Jill. She was oblivious to the fact there are pedophiles
just waiting for the chance. When I talked to her I started with saying , I have something to say to you and it might make you furious. And she was . She stormed into the house. But, she did come back out in about 10 min. and said she was furious but understood what I was saying.
A few weeks later, we almost hit Rosie with our car, twice. There is a bank of hedges at the foot of the driveway, that's where the kids were choosing to play. Once again, no parent in sight. I went to Jill to talk to her about it. Jill was furious that I was interfering. She pointed her finger at me and said sharply " Don't start with me " and stormed into the house again. This time she did not come out to talk. From that point on it has been horrible.
Oct.28/12 We received a letter from the Board of Directors. Now, we have protocols in place set out by the Board for due process. First talk with the person, then write them a letter, then a letter to a committee, then a letter to the Board. All the steps were missed. We got the letter out of the blue accusing us of smoking pot. Saying we were doing it 4 or 5 times a day, inside ,and outside .Jill and Derek accused us of "changing their children;s thinking" !
We sent a letter back Nov. 13/12 First addressing all the skipped protocols,asking why the Board was acting on behalf of Derek and Jill, not giving us any chance to deal with this, and then completely denying
that any of this was true.
Prior to this , June of 2012 Jill had told Jack and I that the people on the other side of them had been having ongoing fights and screaming matches,keeping them awake all night there was an odor and very loud coughing coming from them. Not us.
Nov,18/12 we got another letter back peddling, giving flimsy reasons why they sent the letter, saying that Jill and Derek felt "uncomfortable talking to us", and that they were not acting on their behalf, but on the behalf of the entire co-op. Then it said , that they were simply requesting that IF we were smoking marijuana , to consider the other members of the co-op...
like with perfume,detergents and fabric softener.
Mar.28/13 I sent a note to Derek and Jill informing them of the kids throwing rocks, playing with and breaking glass. No parent in sight. Two of the kids called me over to the playground to ask what they should do about broken glass buried in the gravel. This very day, I got a thank you note from two of the little boys from unit 10. for helping them out.
Also that very day, I received a note from Derek. First he thanked me for
for informing them of these things. Then says I am not to speak to the children and he will get a restraining order against me to stop me from talking to them. He finished it off with a warning to stay away from the kids and not to intervene in their games.
Mar.29/13 We then sent a letter to Jill and Derek reminding them of all the nice and good things that went on between us, and some of the not so nice. I asked when did rock throwing and breaking glass become a game? We have NEVER EVER tried to parent these children. We have always gone to the parents. At the end of the letter we said,
This is my hope for the future. Jack and I would be more than willing to forgive and forget. Let bygones be just that. Wouldn't we all like to enjoy the summer? We all will be outside. It would be lovely to able to say good morning, and go about our day without bad feelings. The olive branch has been extended. It's up to you.
On the envelope we wrote that we would not give this letter to the Board until we had a reply from them. There were things Jill had told me about Derek that we thought were best kept private. Why air more dirty laundry?
Mar 31/13 We got our reply alright. Derek had a private meeting with the other parents, painting us totally black. And then he went to all the other members in the co-op and had them sign his version of a restraining order, and more slander. Once again accusing us of smoking pot. Using obscene language to the children and using hostile and threatening behavior with the children. He also accused me of assaulting
him.
If I may say , nothing could be further from the truth!!!
April 10/13 We received a letter saying a unanimous decision was made by the Board to consider a resolution to terminate our membership in the co-op. Conduct detrimental to the co-op. The meeting is Apr.18/13
I would like to add, we have lived here for 8 yrs. Derek and Jill for 16months. We found out a couple of days ago that they will be moving out mid May. Which begs the question , if we will no longer be their neighbors , why are they trying their hardest to have us thrown out of our home?? What kind of vendetta is this??
You may want to know, some of the things Jill has told us. Derek is bi-polar and refuses medication, suffers greatly from depression, has had 20 or so jobs in the past 3 yrs. Was dismissed from his last job at Howard House for mental instability. And from Derek's own lips, his admission of being an alcoholic. He is an ex British solder. and a bully .
As far as Jack and I go, we have been together for over 35yrs. We are good people. We are care givers for a man with a brain injury. We do this through Kindale Community Building. We were extensivly screened.
We have also work with children, Jack with Children's Services in Calgary for 11 yrs. And I am a Registered Nursing Asst.( LPN) since 1979, and worked with the Calgary Board of Education with Special Ed. for 7 yrs.
Jack is soon to be 65, and I am 59. This is not what we expected at this time of our lives. This has caused extreme stress and upset. We want to thank you for any kind of help you can give us.
Jack and Mo( Maureen)