Debra, this sister will use the excuse that the home was purchased for the benefit of mom, seeing how they converted a main floor family room, to be used as her bedroom and had built a bathroom adjacent to that room to accomodate her easily..Mom had a stroke in the yr 2000 and is paralyzed on the left side.....the actions of my sister and continued actions are simply to enrichen her and her family....they're not exactly known for working hard outside the home..she also does not care for mom properly - each and all family members are well aware of this.....this sibling stayps up late watching movies and then sleeps in everyday til noon...mom is also diabetic and unable to get out of bed....this same sister who's unable to wake up early, does not get mom out of bed in time to get her medications given to mom - diabetics need a normal routine, regular meals i.e. brkfst, lunch and dinner at normal, reasonable hours - also preferably home cooked meals and not McDonalds or take out - she's also been known to threaten or blackmail mom with words and tone of voice that are quite bullying or intimidating or often at other times, so sweet, it leaves one wondering whether this sister is dual personality or just an excellent con to get what she wants....am I wrong for feeling so overwhelmed, disheartened over all this....I'm a single woman, have been for years, and due to all this have shyed away from getting involved with anyone, let alone dating...I'd be embarrassed to bring anyone into a family the likes of mine...these issues have also divided the half-decent relationship with my other 2 siblings, who do agree with what I'm trying to do, but yet each of them, who have spouses and extra income, do not come on board to help fight these issues, due to knowing how often the legal system exasperates you, let alone financial drains individuals involved in legal battles. If needing to use Elder Abuse, given sufficient facts and evidence linked to how sis treats mom, where would or could I start using this strategy....I've contacted the police and gathered plenty of info on Elder Abuse websites, but once again, I'm at a stalemate....far too much protocol involving getting mom's mental state psychosis examined medically, etc etc....is there no other way around all this, that's quicker and more effective..if mom passes, (which is exactly what the sibling wants) she'll be in a position to say Mom gifted her with all this!
Or should I just leave everything alone, wait til mom passes, and see what exactly takes place at the time of the reading of the Will....(although my better judgment tells me that would be a definite mistake)....only thing I'm 100% sure of, is that if any lawyer or judge were to ask mom whether her daughter's owe money to her, she'll always say yes, irregardless of her mental state.....she was always 'money hungry' let alone tight....and now to think her 'baby' outsmarted her and everyone else, is too painful to swallow. Can or do I use the Elder Abuse approach? and if so doing what initially?
Province/Territory relating to question: Ontario
What have you tried so far?: This Just Answer system is not all that user friendly, or I'm not as computer proficient as I thought I was...I'm trying to continue my communication with Debra Thal and have authorized a payment of $47...I understood a few questions can be asked for this amount? Am I incorrect?