Can i file an application to get full costudy sons because…

I understand. So, in the past year, what % of the kids' time has been with you? Focus on the amount of overnights. Estimate is fine.

What does the order say exactly? Do you have it in front of you? I don't need you to type out a copy, but if you could tell me what the custody and access arrangements are that would be great. Or if you have an electronic copy you could try to attach it here to a reply.

That is a very interesting situation, from the standpoint of evidence. You certainly have a claim based on the status quo.

No smoking gun? It can be hard to get young children away from the custody of their mother.

In short, what is your plan of care? Would the kids have to change schools? How does your work schedule match that of the kids? Do you live with anyone or have lots of support from closeby family?

I hear you, really. I deal with these issues every day.

You need to give up what you think is fair or reasonable or how things should be. You need to focus on how the way things are.

You have a court order, right? If you have a court order then you need to show what has happened since that order was made, and how your proposal is better for the kids than the status quo. It's not enough to say "mom is irresponsible".

You came for help on how to proceed. That's different from telling me why you think that "the system" is wrong. So please, read over my last post and answer my questions, and I'll tell you what I think.

Kids never have the right to decide. They are minors. As they get older and more mature the court is more likely to take what they want into account, and by the age of 15 or 16 or so the court is likely to give the kids what they want unless there's a good reason not to, but children never have the right to decide custody and access arrangement unless the court order says so.

You want me to tell you what I think of your odds.

Please put yourself in her shoes, or pretend you're her lawyer. What could she say about you in order to throw mud? Whether or not it's true or exaggerated, what will she say if and when you say you want custody?