I recently divorced in 2012..we married in 2008...but, because…

Your ex has a spousal support obligation to his earlier ex. Her entitlement to support from him is determined by many factors, including his ability to pay and his asset base.

So if she wants to, she can claim that he is reducing his ability to pay on paper by being overly generous to you or having transferred property to you which you perhaps weren't entitled to. She can claim that you're in cahoots with him to make him appear to be less able to pay support to her.

Now, she can claim whatever she wants. She has to prove it in court. By making the claim she'll force your ex to file the domestic contract between the two of you. Then the court can see how you and he split up the marital property, and they'll also see that there's no support. Assuming that there's no evidence of any collusion between you and he to hide his assets, that should be the end of it.

So you're lawyer isn't wrong. Your dealings with your ex aren't her business. But she can make it her business.

The good news is that only if she has some evidence that you and he are colluding will she get any further in digging into your affairs.

This sort of thing happens all the time. Husband divorces second wife (although they are still actually "together") and he transfers a pile of property and money to her as a settlement of their property issues. Actually, she's only holding on to it for him while he gets rid of the spousal support obligation to the earlier wife.

In law, this is called a "fraudulent conveyance", the transfer of property so as to commit a fraud or deny a legitimate claim of another third party. Sadly, it's quite common. So his ex is free to explore whether that's happened in this case, or whether your husband was reckless with his money by supporting your failed business while married to you which would have depleted his wealth and lowered his ability to pay spousal support to her.

But from what you've told me, I don't think you have anything to worry about. It would be an extraordinary thing for her to drag you into the litigation.

As far as bringing an action against her for making your marriage and divorce stressful, I've never seen such a case succeed. Even if you did I doubt it would make you any happier, since all a judge could do is order them or her to pay you some money. That wouldn't turn back the clock or make you sleep better. Seriously, if you're not already then get some counselling rather than dwelling on whether even more litigation is the solution to all this.

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Ulysses