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50th Anniversary Party - Request Money instead of gifts

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I'm planning my parents 50th wedding anniversary celebration party. Since being married for 50 yrs, they have everything they want. How can I let the guests know that they would prefer money instead of gifts??? Help?
Submitted: 9 years ago.
Category: Wedding
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 9 years ago.

Hello Catluver,

It's become more and more commonplace for people to want money i lieu of gifts for many reasons, but it's still not considered proper etiquette to say so outright. This doesn't mean that people won't/don't in their own little ways. One popular way is to let guest know that they will have a Wishing Well, click here to see invites for a wishing well. You could also put on the invitation "monetary gifts preferred" but that is considered tacky. If you know most of your parents friends, then you can let them know if they ask that they really have everything (that might give them a hint). Another way is to let everyone know that they are saving up to go on a 50th Anniversary trip or second honeymoon.


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Customer: replied 9 years ago.
How do you let people know that they are saving up to go on a 50th anniversary trip (which they are to Hawaii). Word of mouth or put something in with the invitation. No link was included with your comment about wishing well. Thanks.
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 9 years ago.

Hello Catluver,

My apologies, the wishing well link is here. You could use one of the wishing well poems to let them know about the trip, or telling people mouth to mouth is the next best thing.

I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more



Customer: replied 9 years ago.
It seems the wishing wells are for wedding as they start their lives, etc. I don't see how I could "use" one of these verses for their 50th party.
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 9 years ago.

Hello cat,

It's not hard to change anyone you like to suit your purpose, for example, here's number 9 with changes

Our home is quite complete now, we've been together so long,
so please consider our request and do not take us wrong.
A delicate request it is, we hope you understand.
We're going on our second honeymoon maybe you can lend a hand.
The tradition of the wishing well is one that's known by all.
Go to the well, toss in a coin and as the coin does fall,
Make a wish upon that coin and careful as you do.
Cause as the well's tradition goes, your wishes will come true.
So on this special day of ours, the day that we'll be wed.
Don't hunt for special gifts but give money in it's stead.
And as you drop the envelope with money great and small,
Remember, make your wish as you watch your money fall.


Expert:  Ms Chase replied 9 years ago.

"If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our 2nd honeymoon, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way."

it tells them what you want but mentions that they are free to do as they wish.