The truly manic stage starts around 7:30 and no matter what we have tried from ignoring yet being present (isolation time out was the worst.) to play and exercise (just as bad as isolation). She wants to rough play to excite herself. I've spent hours and nights just observing her behavior. Just petting her can be the trigger she is looking for.
We are pretty sure her experience over 5 days with the 15 year old included her eating marijuana and being played roughly (or abused some way) while under the influence and it probably happened after the family came home at night.
My first question is there any hope she will overcome and learn to handle her panic enough to socialize with the family. My next question is how should we handle the panic stage. I haven't found a way to prevent it. Benedryl didn't help. I've not given her any herbs with valerian in it; what do you think about using it.
Thank you for replying back. We have selected a behaviorist to try. I spent most of the last four nights watching her and tried a new response last night that may help. We believe that the experience with the drug and rough play (even perhaps an effort to make her a mean big dog) at one house was then compounded by punishment for bad behavior (she had not previously had) confused her terribly. We have to change the time we feed her to before 5 pm, acknowledge her but not play with her in any way. When she becomes insistent and aggressive we put her outside, trying to leave the door open so she is still part of the family, but unable to get to us to hurt us. She becomes very destructive to property, which I hope is more of a puppy tantrum. If I sit out with her, but ignore her, she plays with her toys and barks at sounds in the dark. Eventually she gives up on getting me to play and I can go inside. She continues to be active until much later, and only slightly destructive. If we interact to feed her or anyone plays with her at all in the evening, the manic is much worse.
Thank you for the comfort about the drug, it is the same response I've gotten from other sources we have consulted. It is possible that the drug (if not laced with anything else) probably heightened the feeling and emotion of the experience of abuse. She might have even gotten beaten for eating a stash and that relates to her eating fear.
I'm anxious to see what the behaviorist can do.
Up and down. We gave her a new pad to lay on knowing she would destroy it, but what surprised us was how she bundled it up and frantically "humped" it for a long time. Never saw a female do that and she showed aggression to it at the same time...totally destroying it. The behaviorist meets with us today, Monday. We are all anxious to get her input. We made some good changes: no direct play, little rubbing (primarily petting limited to three strokes at a time), no squeaky toys, and learning some of her dominant gestures. We talked with friends that train hunting dogs and got some ideas that seem to be helping. I now can see the male behavior is part of her manic stage. You have any ideas. She was spayed about 5 months ago.