thank you for the the extra information. Did your father have an early will and if so, what was in it?
There is no magic way of making her see sense and at this stage, as the situation is stalled, you might want to be the one who refuses to talk to her and basically, call her bluff.
However if you don’t want to do that, you might want to get a solicitor to threaten litigation even if you ultimately do not proceed that far. You may get a solicitor to deal with this no-win no fee but you may have to do ring around the few firms first.
Wills and estate admin can be contested on various grounds
If a person doesn’t provide for dependents, children incl adopted children of all ages and a spouse (but not step children unless they have been treated as the deceased’s own children) in a will it can contested by making a claim under the THE INHERITANCE (PROVISION FOR FAMILY AND DEPENDANTS) ACT 1975.
Details are here
Undue influence if it is thought that the person making the will had been “got at" when drafting the will.
Or if, when drafting the will the person lacked mental capacity/didn’t know what he/she was doing
There are strict time limits for contesting will under 1 above of 6 months from death.
Claims under 2 or 3 above 12 months.
Claims under 4, no time limit.
Promissory Estoppell. This is a technical legal doctrine not used very often. It says that if anyone has been promised something during the lifetime of a person and they relied on that promise to their detriment then they are entitled to have whatever was promised. The classic case is indeed the young man on the farm, who is told by the old man “don’t go off to seek your fortune son, but stick with me and work on the farm and I will leave it to you when I die,”.
So the young man doesn’t go off to seek his fortune and stays and works on the farm and it turns out that when the old man dies he leaves everything in his estate to the prize cow, Daisy or his new girlfriend, who is 30 years younger than he is. In that case, the young man having given up a future (to his detriment) on the basis that one day (he was promised) the farm would be his and he believed it and relied on it, he can get a court order that the farm is transferred to him. Such claims are not cheap or quick to bring in do require a large burden of proof of the promise and reliance to detriment.
Anyone can get a copy of a will once it has been admitted to probate from HM probate registry, upon the payment of five pounds.
Anyone can also hold up the granting of probate by entering a caveat at the probate registry. At least, they will then find out if there is a will. The entering of a caveat will certainly wake up any executors. Some explanatory details are here;
If there is no will the estate is distributed under terms of the rules of intestacy
A person can register a standing search at the probate registry, which must be renewed every six months and it will tell them if anyone applies for probate. When they do, they can then apply for a caveat.
If anyone is considering litigating the matter on any of the grounds above, they can make an application to court for pre-action disclosure of the will and can ask the court to award costs against the executor. If the application fails, costs can be awarded against the applicant.
So you can see that you probably have grounds to contest the will on 1, 2, and 3.
If the will had been drafted and executed by a solicitor and it had not been arranged by your sister, then it would severely harm any claim that you may bring but as it is, I do not think that your sister is on very good grounds to get the current will admitted to probate, particularly if the previous will was grossly different and left everything almost equally between the children.
Remember that if this does litigate, and your sister loses, the legal costs will be deducted from her share of the estate and she could therefore end up with virtually nothing by the time the legal costs are paid.
There are six siblings who may be entitled to benefit and £1000 paid by each, will provide a substantial chunk of money to get a barrister’s advice. I would not waste a lot of time with solicitors correspondence.
There is simply no in expensive non-legal stick which is free of charge, you can beat your sister with to make her respond to your letters or meet you
Does that answer the question? Can I assist further?