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Hi - I don't actually know. The poilice officers said it could be construced as a 'path of conduct leading to harrassment' as there were more than two texts or a text and the doorstep incident. I had sent my ex-partner substantially more texts than that over recent weeks but not to the woman he is seeing. They said it would be in force for a year and if I text, email, visit or speak to him or her about anything but pick up and drop off arrangements for our children and he/she complains, I would be arrested. They did not give me anything written or to sign though and I did not have to go to the police station. So I don't know if this is a verbal informal warning or an official verbal warning or a precursor to something arriving in writing - and which if any of these goes on my CRB check and for how long.
But this is like being issued with something without giving my side of the the story. How can I be issued a harassment warning against her when the new partner obtained my number without my knowledge sent me 3 unsolicited texts before I replied and then I did not use any bad language etc.
No it was she who sent me two texts first without me replying to her. Then she sent a third telling me she had met my child without my knowledge which I found upsetting and did reply to, just asking her not to text me and email me instead if absolutely have to ( I was at work and didn't want random upsetting texts arriving). She responded to say she wasn't going to use email. I didn't reply but next morning was so cross when I received my partner's email stating he was going to marry her after 3 months and have another baby with her (when he didn't marry me after 16 years and 3 children) that I sent a picture of my ring to them both to remind them that he was still technically engaged to me. Together with me shouting at her on the doorstep when I accidentally discovered they were not away for the weekend but having a phusical relationship together inside the flat (while my 6 year old daughter missed her weekly visit with ther father), this photo of the ring is what has made them claim harassment of her.
This all sounds really stupid even to me. We are all 3 professional people and seem to be caught up in something worthy of the Jeremy Vine show. I guess this is because emotions (and children) are involved. I know there is no law against what they choose to do but there is one on harassment. I know my texts to him can be construed as harassment if he chooses to but do you think I would be able to get the judgement in relation to her removed? I have no intention of contacting her but she initiated several contacts first. If I wanted to try, how would I go about it?
Ok - thanks - it does seem to me that these warnings can be used with varying degrees of provocation. In this case my partner did say he was happier with the new partner than ever with me because she is a christian and he has just converted. He said they was going to ensure I couldn't affect their relationship so I am now wondering if her unsolicited texts were in a way to bait me into doing something similar. But then again I did shout at her on the doorstep too . I am going to have to write to the Chief Constable as next time my enhanced CRB check comes up at work I am likely to lose my post.
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