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Are you a lone parent/
Does he live there?
yes and no
What does that mean?
most of the bills are on us both but he does not give me finance help
he is father of my kids but not live with us all the time
How often does he stay over roughly?
5 nights a week
Thats a problem I'm afraid.
How long have you been claiming ?
what can I do now
Well, there are no really painless options for you.
Ultimately if he is living there then you will have to declare this.
what is that mean?
If you declare then they are unlikely to prosecute you.
Of course, they may. You cannot hide from that. But it is not common for them to prosecute people who self disclose.
Is that mean that I have to pay everything back?
What they will do though is ask you to pay back the overpayment.
Yes, they will probably recalculate and ask you to do that I'm afraid.
They will give you time to pay in instalments really whether they disclose or they catch you but if they catch you then you could face criminal consequences.
Do I have to pay back everything or they can reduce that amount?
It might be that your over payment is not as much as you think if he does not always stay there but if he is there 5 nights a week then they are entitled to know about that and calculate your entitlement with that information in mind.
You could offer a full and final settlement sum although that would be rare with HMRC
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If I'll say that i was not honest but I'd like to claim as a couple and pay the overpayment will they treat me better then?
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