Firstly, another man cannot adopt the children, if you do not consent, without a court order. The court do not grant such orders lightly. You would literally have to have been out of the child’s life almost indefinitely and of your own volition before the court would even consider that. You would be given notice of that application to allow you to object.
It transpires that you are not the father, the original birth entry can be annotated with an order of the court but it doesn’t change the entry made originally, it just shows the change.
If you refuse a paternity test, there is a presumption in favour of the person who wants to rely on it. Hence, if she is claiming you are not the father and you refuse the test, the presumption is that you are not. If she was claiming that you are the father and you refuse the test, the presumption is that you are the father.
If you turn out not to be the father, and you have paid child maintenance, you may be able to recover some of that.
Although there are private DNA test facilities, only the court approved ones would be acceptable in any legal proceedings.
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