would it be useful at this point to send copies of recent messages I have had from my partners youngest daughter that explain how much she wants to see me, how much she has enjoyed seeing me and plans for future outings?
Draft of letter as it stands......
Dear Mrs ,
may I first say that I was shocked and saddened by your letter. As you may know, I have brought both Jane’s children up, with her, for eight years. I have been a father figure to Lily, bringing her up as my own, for over half her life. I have attending school parents evenings, performances, sports days, meetings about Lilys educational needs, I receive fathers day cards and presents and have generally been there in a way her real father never was. This is all extremely sad. I love both children, but particularly Lily as we have a father/daughter relationship.
I am aware that I could apply for a contact order through the courts but I would prefer not to do so at this point as this would be an awful thing for us all to go through, particularly Lily.
I am willing to fund and attend a Family Mediation Centre to try and find a compromise that Jane is happy with, so that I may go on seeing Lily if she wishes. Only recently Lily has expressed her feelings for seeing me on a regular basis. I enclose copies of the messages she has sent for yours and Janes reference.
I will not be contacting Jane again, as are her wishes, but I would appreciate if she would consider the option I am proposing. I believe I have been a positive influence in Lily’s life and would like to remain in it in some capacity.