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What does the 15-year-old actually want.
Although it is not absolutely relevant did you pay towards both children's upkeep and did they both treat you a as their natural father. What has precipitated this?
are you still in contact with the 18-year-old?
can I have as much background detail as possible please? Thank you
but can my ex partner legally stop me contacting her ie on Facebook or through texts, because this is what she has requested in the solicitors letter....that I should have no further contact
She is 15 on the 26th November so will be 16 on 26th November 2014
thankyou for your help. Her solicitor has stated that the only correspondence that I can use is through a solicitor that I appoint and through them.
Do I need to do this or is it acceptable that I reply to the solicitors letter myself ie I personally write to her solicitor?
so to clarify, I can write directly to the solicitor and say
Is there anything else I should put in the letter? We were together 8 years as a couple but only lived together for 6. Does this have a bearing on the courts?
You have been very helpful at an extremely difficult time.
Do I contact you on this thread if I need further advice?
would it be useful at this point to send copies of recent messages I have had from my partners youngest daughter that explain how much she wants to see me, how much she has enjoyed seeing me and plans for future outings?
Draft of letter as it stands......
Dear Mrs ,
may I first say that I was shocked and saddened by your letter. As you may know, I have brought both Jane’s children up, with her, for eight years. I have been a father figure to Lily, bringing her up as my own, for over half her life. I have attending school parents evenings, performances, sports days, meetings about Lilys educational needs, I receive fathers day cards and presents and have generally been there in a way her real father never was. This is all extremely sad. I love both children, but particularly Lily as we have a father/daughter relationship.
I am aware that I could apply for a contact order through the courts but I would prefer not to do so at this point as this would be an awful thing for us all to go through, particularly Lily.
I am willing to fund and attend a Family Mediation Centre to try and find a compromise that Jane is happy with, so that I may go on seeing Lily if she wishes. Only recently Lily has expressed her feelings for seeing me on a regular basis. I enclose copies of the messages she has sent for yours and Janes reference.
I will not be contacting Jane again, as are her wishes, but I would appreciate if she would consider the option I am proposing. I believe I have been a positive influence in Lily’s life and would like to remain in it in some capacity.
It is 10 days since I wrote to my ex's solicitor and I still havent had a reply. Is there a specific time period that they should reply in or could she choose to ignore the letter as she stipulated that I should reply through a solicitor?
I have also noticed that I have been barred from my step daughters Facebook page. I have not tried to contact my stop daughter since I received the letter from my ex's solicitor.
Also I have read on the internet that, as an unmarried step father I have to apply for a contact order within 3 months of me not living with the child. Is this true because this time has passed.
I look forward to your advice,
could you outline the process please. I see no other way no.
She has clearly decided to ignore the letter I sent to her solicitor.
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