Hi Claire - no, there is no regular pattern. I keep notes in my diary to keep track. Weekends can be somewhat erratic and although I send detailed emails asking when he'd like to have her, I don't always get an answer and then we end up deciding the week before or the same week.
I'd love more structure so I know exactly who has her, who is picking her up from school on Fridays, and dropping her off on Monday mornings(This will be the first school year)
I've been competing in sports events this summer, and once I've booked/paid for a competition, I add it to the Hotmail calendar we share, asking if he'd have her on that day. It's worked to a point, but the hassle involved is more than I am willing to bear as an ongoing procedure.
We're meant to follow this:
Friday 15h: I have her until Sunday morning 1000, when he has her for the day, drop off to nursery Monday morning...or at mine Sunday night if he's on client site early Monday morning. The following week: Friday 15h: He collects her from nursery, drops her at mine/I pick up at 1000 the Sunday morning...so at the moment, we share. Sometimes we swap dates/times dependant on what the other parent is doing/has planned last minute. We try to stay flexible, but when one of us disagrees on what the other has said, sparks fly and tempers flare.
I want to avoid any room for confusion and be able to see two months down the road what I can plan for 'X' weekend. I can be flexible if needs change, but I need the structure.