I am Hungarian, EU Citizen. Not more.
When I arrived here in UK I gave up my journalist work at Hungarian Public Television (like BBC here) and I was a presenter in a radio. I have two Bsc and one Msc.
I was in love, I gave up everything and I moved here.
We haven't common children but my partner has 4. He told me if I got pregnancy I have to go back Hungary with my bastard. (Earlier he told me if I want we will have a common children.) Nowadays his opinion changed but we don't use contraception yet... (He outrages me often because I am 40y.o. and I haven't kid. I had ovary tumor... for example that's the reason. but if he wants to hurt me it's also a reason.)
The 2 youngest with us regularly but the two older also with us often.
I cleaned the house, I cooked sometimes, I was shopping food for all family… etc.
I don’t feel I got back love. He gives me money but everybody can see in my bank account. I spent to food for the family. 2-3 times I was at hair-dresser.
(I have bank account because my partner told at the bank I live here permanently. He pays more house tax because I live here – I saw the paper -, and I got a form than I can vote here. I think because I live here permanently. I have home doctor here and I give free medicine for my thyroid problem because I live here permanently but I don’t know the rules.)
A lot’s of time my partner told at the dinner table I am a bloody foreign or f**king Hungarian.
A few times the kids told it’s not fair.
My partner has alcohol problem.
He loose the temper, he is shouting and happened when hit me.
I told my partner “don’t drink to much” when the kids are here. He was a few times that drunk: I gave food to the kids or I went to the school early morning with them.
I am here until last June… Every month in the last six-seven months when I have to pack and he says I have to go back Budapest because I am a fat ass or stupid cow… And I am lazy.
I don1t say I am a brilliant housekeeper but I am working here in the house or around a hose lot. He didn’t see it.
I lost my self-esteem, I am depressed a few time and I have defenselessness what he knows and he uses.
Today morning he was shouting with me because I applied a job what is 200 miles far from here. He was threatening me if I will work there I loose them.
Never-ever spoke with me a person like my partner… I am bitch, I came from barbarian country, he reviles my country Hungary… etc. I don’t want to write what he says often. Here in this letter I used enough scurrility what I am shaming!)