The only contact the two younger ones seem really happy about is the Wed night one when my ex husband comes to my house when I go out. They enjoy this one because he is there for them and them only. I steer very clear when I get home so as to give them time. In his house his new partner is always there with her son so it becomesimpossible for them to be with just their dad. They can take or leave the sat night stays and very often spend time with their friends before going. I dont want to stop the contact with their dad I just donet want them being with someone who has mental health problems and a voliatile temper. She has now had 4 massive blow ups in the presence of my children and I dont want this to happen any more. I am aware of numerous others also not directly involving my children. I dont feel she is safe. I have insisted that she never be left alone with the children so my ex husband has to take them with him whereever he goes when it is contact. My eldest is obviously out of this equation as she has chosen to live there but she now tells me that she lives in fear of the partner's behaviour and that she will spend as much time as she can away from the house or in her room. As a mum my main job is to protect my children and I feel this is not what I am currently able to do!
No. We went to mediation and agreed all the times, contact arrangements etc then just before it was due to go before the courts my ex husband refused to sign saying that if he signed he would have to pay and he wasnt pepared to do that. I paid for the divorce and the court costs just to get the divorce. The court demanded that he pay so I will need to take him through the small claims court to get the money. The financial settlement is agreed and signed but not the agreement involving the children. I was told that due to the ages of the childen this was acceptable beacuse they are an age to decide what they want to do. The mediator suggested the shortest possible contacts due to the behaviours of my ex husband and his partner that were very damaging to the childen. However the children have always known that they can go to their dads whenever they want to as long as we both know and are given a little warning for catering etc. This rarely happens. I still keep to the original plan as it suits the children and they seem happy with the arrangement.
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