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Clare, Family Solicitor
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My son is soon to become 8yrs old. He has stated that he would

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My son is soon to become 8yrs old. He has stated that he would like to see me more but his mother refuses. I can now do this as I changed my job to a 4 on 4 off rota meaning that joint custody could now be a option for my son and I. Unfortunately his mother wont allow this as she stated that this would mean her maintenance would go down, or loose altogether. I found this very sad as she is putting her financial situation first before our child. I'm not sure what else I can do, what direction to go in or whether going to court would actually acheieve anything. Please help.
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: UK Family Law
Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
Thank you for your question
I shall do my best to assist you but I need some further information first
Could you clarify how many nights a week you have your son (on average)and what holiday time you have with him.
When did this pattern start?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.

its 2days 2 nights with this pattern starting in Feb of last year. He currently stays 2 nights with this pattern working out about 91 nights a year minimum. During holiday periods he normally stays 1 extra night per week but not always. We have just got off a weeks family holiday with him.


Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
Is this the first holiday she has agreed to - will you be taking him away again in the summer?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.

Most years we have done something with him if we haven't gone away. I normally have him the extra night during summer holidays but cant always afford to take him away so have special days out for him. I think in total we have had 3 actual holidays away though. We wont be going on holiday again this year as he is away with his mother. The mother doesn't tell me when she is taking him away and I normally find out very late or through my child. I try to do things for him but like I mentioned the mother changes her mind and so her own objectives become more important. I would hate to pay for a holiday that my son wont be able to go on.

Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
What pattern do you want to ask for?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.

I want to pick my child up from school or home on my first day off (as I don't finish work until 06:00 with travel on top) and take my child back on my last day off about 19:00 to give him time to sleep for school next day. hopefully then this would work for myself getting joint custody. I currently work a 8 day cycle of 2 days 2 nights 4 off.

Expert:  Clare replied 3 years ago.
How many nights would that be?

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