She is nearly 9, she has had off/on contact over the last few years depending on how stale he has seemed. I have offered currently twice weekly phone calls (face time) and occasional face to face supervised visits. He hasnt been to see her since Easter despite me offering contact and he hasnt called her in over a week now. I have spoken to our SW who thinks it needs to go to court and he has "apparently" instructed a first directions hearing, but I have yet to hear. I have told him I am not prepared to have the burden of decsion making any more and that he needs to obtain a judges decision (which of course I will abide by). He keeps asking for unsupervised access and I keep telling him that wont happen until a judge decides. The latest refusla ended up in him saying he was going to fight for full custody. (He has nothing to throw at me, I am a good Mum and daughter is very happy and thriving etc).
I have his ex emplyer willing to provide evidence in court about his fraud and stealing.
No they arent involved , I just had a friendly chat with our old social worker.
A very basic answer, and didnt answer my original question
Hi thank you, one more thing, you rightly mention that he will plead he is undergoing therapy (he has booked a weeks resident sex addicts course in June). He has had numerous therapies over the last 20 years, and even saw a psychiatrist when he amitted having murderous thoughts towards the boss who sacked him. Will this history be taken into account too?
Many thanks for your support so far, I facillitated contact with my ex and my daughter last weekend, and during the visit he deemed it appropariate to strip to his underpants and run the the sprinkler in my front garden. His defence was " Milly told me to" I have also had information come to light that my ex has sexually harassed a previous colleague in a serious manner, she has deemed it right to warn me of this, and is willing to provide me with evidence. I have now stopped him seeing her, do you think this is reasonable ?
I did offer a contact centre at the local nunnery, which he hadnt said yes or no too. I have then withdrawn it for 2 reasons : The sex harassment issue and also my daughter has said she doesnt want to go to the contact centre, I think this be part to do with the fact that she spent 18 months visiting her birth mother in a contact centre before she was adopted. Does this have any bearing?
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