You're welcome, I'm glad I pay for membership so you get credit every time I need help! :)
Sorry Claire, I know just when you think you've answered my questions I come back with more and I don't stress over it as you may think or I used to, but she keeps complicating it and I want to make sure I don't work against myself and the children by doing to wrong thing in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your help again.
Relentless??? Let's say at least that, yes! The hatred towards me far outweighs her love for the children and what's best for the children -
its turned into pure emotional abuse now. Anyway...
Its not as simple as you propose, wish it was:
Its her Friday when she should normally collect the children from school, daughter at 3.30, son at 4.30. Three choices here for me:
1.I collect my daughter at 3.30, son at 4.30 and return them in the same order, daughter at 5.30, son at 6.30? That means conflict at the door straight away when I drop off my daughter!
2, I collect them (at 3.30 and 4.30) and return them both at 6.30, but then I don't how that will be used against me because I would effectively have 3 hours with my daughter as opposed to 2 as per order?
3.I insist she collects them as usual from school as she would on her friday and I then collect the children from her, probably about 5 and plead stupidity and just take them back at 7. Maybe I even get to see an upon my return !?? :) This is an option that she is very unlikely to accept even if I was to threaten and say that I will come to collect the children in the presence of the police. As you said, they are not there to enforce contact.
In any case, if I don't return the children "on time", I risk getting the same back on Monday when we need to handover the children for the bank holiday we share! We've kind of agreed a time already and she';; just "disappear" and not let me collect the children. I know this person so well, I know this is what will happen.
There's simplicity for you :) What do I choose?
Sunday - she was adamant and refused anything other than 6-8pm already, before I mentioned my afternoon. I can swallow this one as I can swallow many more that are coming in the following months, but this abuse has to lead to something?
The question is: Can I make notes of dates and her actions of abuse and alienation and have this to my advantage when we eventually end up in court? Will I have an advantage, really?