My children are 11, 13, 17 and 18. I have 3 boys and 1 daughter. My daughter is 17 and has completely taken over my role as the boys mother as she feels that I am incapable of doing the role even though I have done my best. I feel that I have no say in anything that goes on in my life and especially now as both my daughter and ex have decided to take it upon themselves to undermine me and take my children away from me. The boys were happy but it seems that since their father came into some redundancy money, he has bought their affections and tried to lure them into thinking that life would be so much better if they lived with him than me. I am not in a financial position to do anything out of this world for the children, apart from feed, clothe and love them. I am at a complete loss. i don't know what I am trying to ask apart from if there is any help I can get to support me through this. At present the children live with me but see their father at the weekends but I have been informed that the arrangement will change within the next 6 weeks maximum as he now has a house of his own. There was no discussion just me getting told what was going to happen. I am not a strong person and feel that all of this has totally been taken out of my hands and control.
they have all told me that they would be better off with their dad.
They havent even said they want to see me. my ex only ever turns things into.a row and says how useless i am. do you think a mediator might help? we just cant talk as adults
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