Oh believe me I have told them they can't speak to a judge "just like that"..I try to avoid the subject, it keeps cropping up! :(
Its sad that because of the biased system as it is, my contact is seen as "reasonable" and I guess it is, but because it is not near equal, i feel I am letting my children down, I am not fighting hard enough..I try to explain this to them, it seems to make them even more determined with what they want to say for the court and I am NOT, absolutely not pushing them or giving them ideas.
1. The financials Claire - how much can that get in my way as the "excuse" I could be accused of?
2. The atmosphere doesn't seem to be so good at mums because they said they were close to running out of the house to come to me.
IF that was to happen and I wouldn't be surprised, what am I to do? Keep them and nt let them back? Just take them back myself? Call the police, social? I don't know... I am asking so I can be prepared for anything that might come up and stay within the law.
3. We are to go on holiday this year again, abroad, to the same country where both our families come from originally. We did it over the last 2 years and it just was a coincidence that we were both there and I picked them up from her both times in my car. Both times we were supposed to meet half-way to handover the kids, but both times she "didn't have transport" and asked if I could just pick them up as I did. Now, this year I am having them first and she should be responsible for picking them up from me if she goes there. If she doesn't, who is responsible? She should pick them up from me as I did over the last 2 years I believe! Or am I responsible yet again and to the taxi service for her, drop them off wherever she is, or bring them back to the UK? We have not built this into the consent order and if I continue as you advise the travel arrangements, she will just take it for granted and just "order" me to bring them wherever she decides? For all i know she might say its Australia? There's got to be a more simple, practical and logical way of doing this? What would you advise?