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OK. the Police evidence was put to Department of the Director of Public Prosecutions. I have it here.
They replied "I direct no prosecution" "There is no evidence to support sisters allegations" "This is not a suitable case for prosecution".
Just wish I knew where all of this started from and why nearly 20 years later she wants to destroy my chances with my daughter, over something that never happened...other than the fact that I was seen as Dad's blue eyed boy!! Her and my evil brother hated me for this reason!!
Hello Claire, I feel disheartened. My solicitor has read all the Police disclosures, statements etc etc and says that my sister appearing at Court will be a big problem for me! (unless she loses her temper).
I asked what my chances are regarding contact with my daughter and she said...."I cannot say" also your ex wife has heart failure and that would be in her favour if she said it would be too much for her to cope with, if you had contact.
It makes me think back to when I asked you "when would a Judge deny contact and you said something like "if it was too much for the Mother to Bear", and something else regarding the child?
Hi Claire, I haven't seen any medical report, just her statement that she has heart failure......and that she states that I caused it, which is rubbish because when I first met her she was always getting breathless and I sent her to my GP and they strapped a monitor on her for one or maybe two nights.It was only when she was giving birth about a year and a half later that she had big problems and had emergency section due to pre eclampsia. From the birth she slowly got worse and when our daughter was 4 she had really bad heart failure and almost died.
She slowly got better and her heart pump action went up to 48% (normal is 55 to 65 %) The Consultant total us that it was a miracle as she was so ill and just hours way from the heart transplant list.
When she had heart failure the Doctor told me never ever to cause her stress because that would affect her heart badly.
The miracle improvement period to 48%.......is the very same period of time that she claims I abused her including choking her. I did no such thing and would not even argue with her....in case it damaged her and I would feel guilty. This is a point that I have raised with my Solicitor, because if I had been bad to her, her heart would certainly not have improved as well as it did.
As far as I know, she fine fine looking after our daughter. All I know is that the soles of her feet turn navy blue because of bad circulation. As we have been split up for more that a year....I don't know what her health is like at present.
Hi Claire, I just received letter from ex's solicitor with index to trial bundle.
It has 99 sections!!! On reading through it there is a Police report from Brazil 04/06/2009 a letter from our GP 08/03/2013 (none of which I have seen) and attached is a very damaging letter from Parish Priest who never visited our home nor did he bother to visit ex when she was in hospital in 2008 with heart failure.
I have to go to solicitors office to pick up the bundle
Hello Claire. Just took bundle to my Solicitor. So sorry but I over reacted a bit. The GP letter is actually the nice one that he done for me saying that I was under a lot of pressure representing myself etc etc. The Police letter is from Brazil it's in Portuguese so i don't know what it says.
The priests letter says that he is aware that I treated ex very badly throughtout marriage and that she is a wonderful person and Mother and that my behaviour affected our daughter (who goes to his primary school). This is complete rubbish and our daughter is always around the top of the class. I have her last school report here.
He goes on to say that I need treatment for manic disposition!!! Is he a Priest or a Doctor? Things being thrown at me from all directions as usual!!
The trial bundle is so big....because all of my stuff is in there also, which I was told it was because I was representing myself
The letter from ex's Solicitor says to let them know if I want to add anything further to the bundle.
My good sister is doing another letter as to why she is terrified to be a witness for me.
My brother who is married to ex's best friend (this is the one who told ex all the stuff about what bad sister said) says that he will do a letter also stating that my bad sister has never ever said anything to him about me abusing her. He is also saying that his wife denied to him that she had said some of the things that ex has put in her statement.
Thank you Claire and we speak soon, Sean
Hello Claire, as you and I both know, all of this started when I refused to sign over the big house in Brazil. I was thinking of printing a letter with the address of it etc etc and making it like an agreement that both parties on the title deeds agree to sell the property and split the proceeds on a 50/50 basis.
I would ask my Barrister to present this to my ex in Court and see what her reaction is.
If she refused, would it look bad on her part?
What do you think?
Ok. Mediation was set up for approx 6 months. At very first meeting ex pulled out because I would not sign over house. Things got worse and worse from then onwards.
Can I at least mention that? And we were divorced on two year consent with no sex or physical abuse, then all of a sudden all the abuse allegations started
Can't wait to get back to Plumbing.....I'm not making much of a job at being a Solicitor!
Just about every thing has been thrown at me from all directions and I don't know how I'm going to cope during 29th and 30th April.
Tee hee! Nice talking Claire and we speak soon. Sean
My solicitors secretary just called and said that a conference has been called for Thursday afternoon.
I have to be there and she said my Barrister would be present and to bring photo ID with me.
Am I right in thinking that this meeting with the Barrister is to make her more familiar with the case?
My son phoned me on Saturday to say that ex's solicitor phoned his Mother ( my ex wife ) to ask if she would make a statement against me!!
My son said that his Mum told him that solicitor had phoned her, but he didn't say when. He said solicitor already had some information about me. Probaly harrassment notice or injunction or something! I know I drank way back then and I can't remember much, except that I never was charged with anything.
My son said that his Mum did not make a statement and I haven't recieved anything from her. They really are throwing things at me from all directions since I wouldn't sign over the house and then much worse, when I took out prohibited steps order to make ex remain in UK, until things are sorted.
Hello Claire, I had long meeting with the Barrister on Thursday and went through everything. It's too much to print in here. Firstly she said that the Judge was wrong to allocate 2 days saying she needs 3/4 days as there are 9 witnesses. She asked ex solicitors for adjourment, but they said no. She asked for just the statements only, from some of the witnesses to save time by not calling all of them, they said no. She said she was very confused by the Police disclosures saying the allegations were very very serious and couldn't understand why I was called for a "voluntary" interview and that one line was enough for immediate arrest! She doesn't know why there is only a "summary" of the tape and no transcript and a named Solicitor....that was not even present! She said the letter from my GP was very good and showed that I have no mental concerns. She is not happy with the way ex's solicitor presented the case and said it was quite brutal. She said it was remarkable that I got this far, on my own ( I thought of you at this stage and how good you have helped me) She was very upset that my statements and my good sister's statement, were sent to my other sister and found it unbelievable that my bad sister then made a statement about my good sister's statement.
She then closed the big file and said " now if everything in this file was to stand up in Court, for which it will not......there is still light at the end of the tunnel.....and you will see your daughter". "likely it may be supervised".
She chose four of my witnesses. Late yesterday afternoon my Solicitors Secretary phoned me to say that the opposition do not want 3 of my witnesses to attend Court and named the one I have to bring on Tuesday. Monday is just me, my ex and my sister. I asked Secretary how many witnesses opposition were bringing.....but she said she did not know.
Claire, I am in total shock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My Barrister spoke first and got about 3 of the "scott schedule" dismissed.
Ex's Barrister could not attend due to some other case taking longer. They got new new Barrister and things were held up.
Other Barrister stood up and said "there are 2 new allegations, my client believes that the Father has groomed his daughter and that he will abuse her and that he will KILL his daughter!!!!!!!!!!!!
I nearly dropped in the Court. My Barrister said this was outrageous and that my ex had made 3 lengthy statements and never ever hinted on any form of abuse to his daughter. Opposition asked for an adjournment and the Judge agreed. He stood up said nothing and walked out.
My sister was there in some other room and my Barrister said that she would have to fly back home.
I then asked my Barrister if Police are now going to be involved. She said she hadn't a clue what's going on. She went on to say that she now fully believes that me taking out the prohibited steps order caused a major upset from my ex and that Brazil is the big issue. She said that she would contact ex's Solicitor and get ex's and my daughters passports surrendered to him.
Whats going on here Claire? Sean
These are two very serious allegations Claire!! What does "Groomed" mean? I haven't seem my daughter since 6th Sept last year and to say that I was going to kill her is totally unbelievable!! I wouldn't and haven't hurt a single hair on her head. My public funding now stopped because it was only for the FOF, and that ended yesterday. My Solicitor can do nothing for me other than she said she has applied for funding again.
I can't believe that this popped up totally out of the blue yesterday!! I so worried that she is going to run to Brazil!
Don,t know if this is working right cause it says finished
I certainly haven't prepared her for anything. Haven't seen he since 06/09/2012. The very few times that I did see her last year was just the normal things a parent would do....pocket money, birthday presents and meals out etc etc.
Brazil is a member in the Hague Convention on child abduction, but it clearly states that the authorities there do not like returning abductors to the UK, because the authorities here always prosecute. They say that is unfair. My ex will show no respect for prohibited steps order because she already told me about Hague Convention over a year ago.
I have not heard from my daughters school in over four weeks ( I usually get newsletter info every week) There is no stop on ex's passport and my Solicitor will do nothing, because my funding has stoppedd because it only covered the FOF....and that stopped abruptly!!
My solicitor has applied again, but I have to wait. My Barrister asked for the same Judge at the next hearing in June, and he agreed.
I think that happened on Monday because they were losing.
I think my ex may "run" and I don't even know if my daughter is in this country, because I have stuck to the orders and stayed away....thus I know nothing about her. Saw my GP today. He is same GP as my ex and all he could say was " I don't know what your ex is up to".
Ok Claire, I will do that.
As you know, my sister and her Police woman friend (who is also a counsellor) were here for the FOF. I think that these terrible allegations were said to my ex by them. They are trying to make me out to be a pedophile!!!
Why would my ex say that "she believes I am going to kill my daughter"?
and what kind of a statement could she make regarding this terrible allegation?
I am stuck for words and cannot believe that something like this could happen, weeks after all the statements were filed!!
As you know at the FOF ex's Barrister said about me grooming and going to kill my daughter and the case was adjourned.
My Barrister wrote out the Court Order etc etc asking for the same Judge.
Ex's statement about this was to be with my solicitors by 4pm on the 13th May.
Nothing has arrived. My Solicitors secretary just phoned and said sometimes this happens and she can't do anything for me because my legal aid has not been sorted.
Why do you think that they have not replied? My GP thinks that the Police may now be involved because my ex made such a very serious allegation.
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