Yes, the relationship has no problems other than the strain it has on my daughter receiving abuse from the ex and obviously the behaviour of his children and his reluctance to discipline them which has been frequently discussed. Her partner and his three children are not named on the lease of the rented property and her rental agent has asked for her to do this and based on the situation she is obviously very reluctant.

Where does the mothers responsibility lie in all this as she is not willing to take them back or accept any responsibility for them. My daughters partners home is with her but their mother has her own place but just refuses to take them back

Can't he insist they live with her as he is unable to do school runs and obviously work commitments mean he would have to find child care etc as my daughter is not willing to continue to be their main career anymore. The mother has had them live with her before my daughter and their father began a relationship

My daughter has asked me to ask you, what grounds are acceptable for your children not being able to live with you

Social sevices

Her partner doesn't but she feels it much easier for everyone concerned as my daughter tends to be the main person who provides for his children's child are needs. I wondered what grounds social services would base for a partner to be able to say they can't look after their children. For example her partner works long hours so looking after the children alone would be impossible. Whereas his ex partner and their works school time hours and therefor there is no valid reason why she deems herself incapable.