My child was born in 1999, and i never lived or married the childs father, he married and brought over in Nov 2008 his wife from Afica, I asked him not to introduce my child to this person, of which he agrred to, but I found out a few weeks ago that he ignored my request, and which i wasnt happy with, and now he has decided he wants to have shared responsibility to my child, of which I donnot deem it nessaccary, as he has never been denied access. have I got any rights at all?
As the father does not have Parental Responsibility it is you, alone, who can set the terms for contact.
However, before I take this further, can you please tell me the objection that you have to your child coming into contact with the wife of your 'ex'?
The reasons being that I know nothing,about her back-ground..well the truth..he keeps on changing the story and she had been refused to be let into the country three times, and i would like to know why, and also one of his friends that was in Africa, when my ex partner met her said that she was 'a lady of the night'..I have asked him for medical information, regarding her health, as my child is a type 1 diabetic, and is needle dependent..but have been refused also my ex, has refused to give any maintance, since i had requested no contact with his wife! But I have not denied him any contact at all..my daughter did say in front of her father that she only wants to see him once a fortnight.
Thank you for that background detail. It helps a lot.
The first point that I should make is that while the wishes of your 6yo daughter will not be ignired, neither will they carry too much weight.
I think that in all the circumstances it might be sensible to invite him (in writing and keep a copy) to make an application for Parental Responsibilitry and for Contact to be defined. This will lead to the Court ordering a CAFCASS Officer to interview all interested parties before preparing a report. This will give you the opportunity of airing your fears and of receiving answers to them.
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Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX i clarify, that my daughter in 9yrs old, and if I did go to court and see this person at the end of the day, I havent got a leg to stand on, and for what I have heard he could get shared responsability?
At the end of the day the Court will make such Order as is in the best interests of your daughter. Rest assured that Orders are made every day which are conditional upon children not being brought into contact with drugs, violence, foul language etc. Often contact is to be supervised. The child will not be exposed to any dangers, whether physical or otherwise.
What the Court will not do is listen to your objections or consider your feelings. The child's welfare is paramount and you have Parental RESPONSIBILITY , not Parental RIGHTS.
I think that you be misunderstanding. We are not talking about you having to seek his agreement to the day to day decisions and most parents are not conciously aware that any order exists because it makes such little difference to ther lives.
Is that any easier to follow?
General Divorce experience with emphasis on division of Matrimonial Property
Thank-you, now I understand!
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