My husband started having private meetings, long phone calls and many other forms of contact with my best friend, who both denied it at first. when found out he could'nt understand why i did'nt want to have any contact with the girlfriend and her family and asked for him to completely disolve all contact.

Since, he has made a relationsip with her husband and activley incurrages our children to keep in contact with theirs. My husband can't see why he can't have contact with him, (as it had nothing to do with him) why would I be happy to tollourate the thought of all three of them having a friendship with me on the out side. She was my closest friend and godmother to my children. Has he keept contact with the husband to protect her so it looks like I'm making it all up? I have proof and answer machine messages with the two of them in intermate conversation, luckly I played it to another friend or no one would have believed me.

Month by month goes by and I keep finding things out, Its making me deprest last night I found her number in his address book under a sudo name, he must think I'm realy stupid!

He keeps saying sorry but doesnt seem to be able to let go, its as if he want have any one tell him what to do! i feel he has had no consideration for me. How can your marriage move on whn you feel you on the outside of a triangle?

Taking the above into consideration on what grounds can I divorce my husband, bearing in mind with have three boys and would need lots of finacial help. Like many couples I gave up my career to be at home with the boys whilst my husband with my support has been very successful!