Hello I will help you with your question,
Your DLC is located at the left end of the dash as shown in the diagram below. You are looking for DLC3 unless you have a dedicated Toyota scantool
Let me know if you have further questions about this
This is an end view of the connector that you are looking for
You should be able to mate your scanner to this connector
Is this a right or left hand drive vehicle?
Are you in New Jersey or Jersey England?
I hope that once I posted the diagram of the connector it allowed you to find what you were looking for. Did it?
Your previous post indicated that you were looking above the gas pedal, is your pedal on the right hand end of the dash?
Let me know as the diagram was for a 2000 4Runner Left hand drive