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My wife and I divorced in 1986. We were married 24 years. My

My wife and I divorced in 1986. We were married 24 years. My wife receives part of my military retirement and all benefits. We had drawn up the divorce decree ourselves and listed 50% net of retirement. However, the Navy has NEVER adjusted her amount - it's been the same for 30 years. She is now asking for an adjustment to 50% of net - which will increase the pay to her by as much as $800. I'm at a loss - it will break me. I also have $660 of my $2700 as disability. Does that count in the 'net' part? Do I have any recourse?

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Would hardship be a very sick family member that I need to

Would hardship be a very sick family member that I need to help take care of?JA: No, you can ask a one off question to try things out.Customer: One off??JA: Because laws vary from state to state, could you tell me what state is this in?Customer: CAJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: NoJA: Anything else you think the lawyer should know?Customer: I just want things confidental. But I already have alcohol dependency severe and my Uncle who was the male in my life has stage four cancer.

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My ex-spouse (we were married 10 years and I am a 20-year

Hello,My ex-spouse (we were married 10 years and I am a 20-year retiree, so she gets 50% of my retirement) is demanding that I provide records for how much she was paid by the Navy for past years. We have been divorced for over 13 years.DFAS has been paying her 50% by law automatically, and paid even more when I was adding child support. There's never been a problem with this.However, I made a bad judgment. For less than a year (Jan. 2015 - August 2016), I took some money from her 50% amount and added it my account for personal reasons linked to my present wife's medical condition - which is wrong.I have formally apologized to my ex for this and I have corrected the error by using my bank account and DFAS records to calculate how much I owe her. I began the DFAS allotment immediately and it goes into affect on 1 Sept. to repay all the money I took from her - ON TOP OF - the normal 50% amount of my retirement.A big mistake, but one I owned and wanted to correct immediately.Naturally, she was angry about it all. Now she believes that I have been fleecing her for past years and is demanding I provide proof of how much the Navy paid her.I don't have those records, and I don't feel obligated to do that since I've already started the pay-back process. She's calling me a cheat, although I've done this just once. I've paid all the federal and state taxes on the retirement, and periodically allotted more to her account to cover Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays and other needs for her and our daughter. My daughter is now an adult.I have been living in Europe with my 'new' wife (10 years) and family for about 11 years, and my ex is threatening to use legal action if I don't provide what SHE wants.Before this, we have NEVER had a problem with her payments or DFAS or even trust. We used to be good friends after the divorce. But now she's venting.What are my options and my responsibilities in this matter? What are her options?I'm not returning to the States for any reason. I live in the EU. I told her that once my debt to her is paid (via DFAS allotment), she will receive the normal 50% monthly payments as usual. Please advise.Respectfully, Joaquin

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I received an undesirable discharge from the Marine Corps in

I received an undesirable discharge from the Marine Corps in 1960 at the age of 17. After my separation I have turned my life around, and retired from the Dept of Corrections in 2005 with the rank of Lieut. My wife and I have been married for 50 years and have raised 2 sons who we are very proud of. I am presently active in volunteer work in the community.JA: Because laws vary from state to state, could you tell me what state is this in?Customer: ArizonaJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: NoJA: Anything else you think the lawyer should know?Customer: I am not looking for VA benefits, only to get something I have been ashamed of my whole life off my records.

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I just got divorced from my 2nd wife (married 63 months). I

I just got divorced from my 2nd wife (married 63 months). I was married before her to another woman for 80 months. In both divorce decrees they both will get a portion of my retirement (50% DRP X # months of marriage / months of credible military service). My question is, do they get these monthly payments of my retirement from me (I pay it to them directly since our marriages were less than 10 years) for the rest of my life or do they get their portion of my pension for a specified period of time (i.e. for a certain amount of of years only)? Both divorce decrees don't specify this. I would think they would only be allowed the length of time of our marriages (80 month marriage and 63 month marriage respectively), not forever, as they were not married to me over 10 years and definitely not the entire length of my military service. In addition, they nearly did nothing to support my career, they even moved kicking and screaming and complaining the whole time. With respect to the answer, if they should not get monthly payments of my pension for the rest of my life, I would also like specific legal cites of the divorce statutes and regulations to reference the length of time that they would legally receive these payments out of my pension, if I am challenged. My first marriage was a California divorce, my 2nd was an Oregon divorce.

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I am a 100% combat (Vietnam) DAV. I am 75 and my wife is 65,

I am a 100% combat (Vietnam) DAV. I am 75 and my wife is 65, no children and married 5/31/2002. I have saved $300,000 in a joint account which has been taken by order of the NM court. My wife is arguing the disability funds are 50% hers because the funds were co-mingled in a joint account with her salary. My attorney agrees with her argument stating that state law overrides federal law concerning VA disability. I have Quicken documents showing inflow & outflow of funds in that joint account. Does this law the president signed in 2010 have any effect on my saved disability payments ?JA: Because laws vary from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?Customer: New MexicoJA: Has either party filed anything in family court? If so, what?Customer: noJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: No, and thank you.

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Does my wife's VA disability benefit count as income when

Does my wife's VA disability benefit count as income when calculating the maintenance I have to pay her? It's none taxable.

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My wife and I are pending a divorce> I am an E-8 stationed

Hello my wife and I are pending a divorce> I am an E-8 stationed in Korea currently and we have 2 children 1 mine 1 a step son. I am trying to establish what financial resources I must properly provide her. She currently resides in an off post House we rent paid for by the BAH.

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We are both retired military members. Husband retired 1996.

We are both retired military members. Husband retired 1996. Wife in 2005. Prior to marrying in 2000, we executed a prenuptial agreement stating that in event of divorce, neither would be entitled to the other's military pension acct. In 2001, he was hired into government civil service under the spousal preference program. He, solely, have made contributions as I paid all household operations costs. Is TSP account considered a marital asset or an extension of his military retirement/pension.

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