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I lost my husband a couple years ago. We had not had a sex

I lost my husband a couple years ago. We had not had a sex life in years due to his diabetes. We had a good loving relationship and were best friends. I have recently started seeing someone and want a sexual relationship with him but I am so tight he has problem entering. Any suggestions? I am 65.

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I noticed that I have been very tender while having sex and

I noticed that I have been very tender while having sex and now I feel like sore dry skin insideJA: How long have you had the pain? What seems to make the pain better or worse?Customer: For about a week but I only notice it when having sex. It seems worse when having sex, also I feel kind of drier than normal.JA: Anything else in your medical history you think the doctor should know?Customer: I have a friction bump from condoms but this doesn't feel the same:

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I was diagnosed with dyspareunia a few days ago because I

I was diagnosed with dyspareunia a few days ago because I experience intense pain when my partner attempted penetration. Due to the pain, the penetration was unsuccessful. My gynecologist suggested that pain especially on the outside of the vagina is likely to have a psychological cause. I wanted to have intercourse and everything was consensual. So I am not sure what is wrong. If it is indeed not a medical issue causing the pain, what are the possible causes and what treatment should I seek, if any?So far I have seen treatments like sex therapy, using vaginal dilators and working with a pelvic floor physiotherapist to learn to control the muscles. But how can I know what treatment to seek, or can it just be not enough foreplay or maybe not enough lubricant is used?I am 21 and I hope to have a sex life, please help.

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Dr. Arun Phophalia

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My other OB GYN diagnosed me with vaginismus. i took all of

My other OB GYN diagnosed me with vaginismus. i took all of his advice and did everything i could to cure it. Ive never had vaginal sex before and i am getting married soon and i would like to be able to do it on my honeymoon! please help!

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Please help! In 2002 I had cervical cancer. During the last

Please help! In 2002 I had cervical cancer. During the last stage of treatment, internal radiation was given, suturing medical gauze into my vagina walls. Upon removal, a visiting doctor, unknowingly ripped the gauze out tearing the tissue on my vagina walls. My doctor prescribed an extra amount of sex after the healing. Which I did. The partner I had helped me and my vagina was functional. Sex was fine. After about a year I changed partners (relationships) but our sex life was not as active. Unknowing, my vagina walls began to close. After 4 years, (and a divorce) another partner was introduced and complained of "hitting a wall" while trying to have sex. That repeated with yet another partner. I visited a clinic and the doctor confirmed that indeed "there was a wall." I have tried dilators but the space is too narrow. I am currently seeing my Gyno and now a plastic surgeon. I hope it doesn't come to that. I recently had an MRI and was able to see for myself the complexity of my vagina. I am writing to you because I seek an inflatable vaginal dilator. I have searched in frustration online for any sort of lead and have not found anything remotely close. Something thin enough Like a balloon that can inflate over time to expand the walls again. If you can at least point me in the right direction that would be great. Please help.

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Dr David

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Senior active sexually after abstaining years, had cramps

Senior active sexually after abstaining years, had cramps and came on for one night and the next day. Should there be concerns?

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Last during sex with my boyfriend the penatrarion hurt more

Last during sex with my boyfriend the penatrarion hurt more than normal. And after when I was cleaning up I noticed a dark gory substance when I wiped my vagina. Is this something I should be concerned with? It was this only one time I noticed it happening for the rest of the night and day I was okay.

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I'm just wondering about the usual methods a vaginal injury

Hi there, I'm just wondering about the usual methods for handling a vaginal injury in a open pelvic fracture?

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Dr Ted Manos

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I am 30+ years old, been married years. I was unable to have

I am 30+ years old, been married for 4 years. I was unable to have intercourse because it was too painful. After seeing a doctor about it, they said it could be vaginismus and they asked me to use vaginal dilators. I moved to as different state due to my job , saw a different gynaec and she did a physical examination and said everything was fine and I just needed to suck it up and take the pain or use dilators. She even forecfully did a pap smear (a very painful one). After about a year or so, my primary care physician also "tried" to do a pap smear and because it was too painful, didn't go through with it. she also just advised the use of dilators. After having had multiple examinations and failed paps and running around in circles with my dilators ( couldn't get far along with those) and occasional use of tampons ( as one of them said that would help) , after 4 years of being married and not being able to consummate the marriage, I decided to go to a new gyanec and get a surgery to " open things up". She did a physical examination and finally told me I had a "longitudinal vaginal septum" and it's no wonder that I could not have intercourse or a pap. She face-palmed at the fact that other doctors had taken a look and failed to catch it. She even showed me what she had discovered. Relieved that the mystery is solved but now I have to go through the procedure of vaginal septoplasty. She has ordered renal and pelvic ultrasounds before that. My questions are : 1. should i get a second opnion? 2. is the procedure safe? 3. are there other implications to a vaginal septum? 4. any undesirable consequences to the septoplasty? 5. will there be any complications to get pregnant or have a successful delivery? 6.any thing else I should be asking my ob/gyn or checking on?Hope other people can learn from my experience.Thanks.

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