I reside in Pennsylvania and am awarded sole legal custody
I reside in Pennsylvania and am awarded sole legal custody and my ex-husband and I share physical custody of our three children. In January 2014 we were discharged from co-parenting counseling due to Father's reluctance to participate and him informing our counselor that he was no longer interested in being a father to his children (I have documentation to support this). Father voluntarily ended his periods of partial physical custody (EOWE) beginning in February 2014 (I also have written documentation of this from him as well) and ceased all contact with the children beginning December 2014. The paternal family is still very involved in our children's lives and they visit them every 6-8 weeks. The agreement being that they would not allow him over without my prior knowledge due to the length of time since he had seen them. At the point of agreement with them, he had been absent for a full year. In August 2016, he and I communicated back and forth via email regarding a child support related issue and ultimately began talking about meeting to discuss a possible reunification plan. Throughout the chain of emails, Father kept blaming me for not being able to see his children due to his need to pay child support (he pays the state guideline in PA plus <$300 toward child care per year). When I informed him that I would be happy to sit down with him to discuss him re-entering their lives as long as his girlfriend did not accompany him and he agreed to leave child support out of the discussion, he ceased in responding to my emails. I have not heard from him since. Earlier this month his girlfriend began harassing me via email and text, insisting that I communicate with her instead of him because he refuses to continue speaking with me. I ultimately was forced to block her. Like most holidays, I set up a visit with his family for our children for Christmas this year. Yesterday they came home and informed me that not only did he show up, he removed them from their home and took them out for the afternoon. I am extremely worried that this sort of intermittent contact will further upset our children. It took two years to rebuild them after a year of very infrequent contact in 2014 and now all of the work we did has been unraveled. We are both pro se and while I do not believe that he will petition the courts, I cannot be sure and I want to inquire whether I should petition the courts myself to request sole physical custody, a formal reunification plan to include family counseling with the kids and co-parenting counseling for us, or what my other options were. I do not want to keep the children from him; however, he still cannot commit to consistent and predictable visits and instead wishes to pop in and out when it suits his work and school schedule. All three of our children have special needs and require various supports due to issues with transition and need consistency. I do not believe allowing him to come and go as he pleases is in their best interests.
I would like to understand if moving out of the (jointly
I would like to understand if moving out of the (jointly owned) marital home will negatively impact my custody rights for my 5 year old daughter if my husband and I establish a shared physical custody agreement for her to begin concurrent with my moving out. So I move out and she comes with me 50% (or whatever exact percentage) of the time from the get go.
I've been married since 1999 2 children 13/14 Husband was a
I've been married since 19992 children 13/14Husband was a 17 percent equity partner before the marriage now he is a 33 percent equity partnerValue about 1.3 millionMakes between 225 and 325 hundred grand a yearMany perksHe has 3 separate bank accounts that t in his name only - I haven't told him I knowI stayed home with my kids for three years and then went back to work. I'm a NYC teacher 18 years in 90 grand a year I make plus a pension I don't know if i can do it anymore - I'd like to quit but the money is too goodI may not have a choice because the system is writing up poor ratings for senior teachers2 years ago I was hospitalized with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. At 47 I had my first maniac episode I was advised to go in because I was delusional and maniac. What caused this was a real bad harassment episode at work and my husband - my internet accounts were broken intoMy husband allowed someone to have our Apple ID and they accessed my online notebook within the app. They read my private thoughts as well as my work notes Many work notes related to the harassment were erased Things would go missing in my house. I believe MMy husband hired someone as a PI He did many cruel things that led to my hospitalization but on record he will appear as the concerned husband and I the sick patientBefore the hospitalization he was real apologeticBought me a bunch of stuff and wrote some sort of affirmation that was filed with the court. It said I was entitled to half his assets - should he live in the marital residence with the kids he would pay me 25 percent of his salaryIn 2008 after he got us in trouble with the IRS he wrote me something similar about my entitlement to half of all his assetsMy son plays ice hockey 6 days a week my husband does all of that and has been manager of the team. They go away about two weekends a month It's really expensive but it's really good for my son My son has some high school prep schools who are interested in offering him a partial scholarship on a few years from now. I love my son but our relationship is distant as I never see himI take care of my daughter. She is in 9 th grade and is an excellent student and plays travel soccor. I take her to practices and tournaments but her schedule is half as full as my sonsMy husband does many chores around the houseHe takes care of the supermarket. We both do laundry and he makes breakfast for the kids in the morning. I take care of dinner for my daughter and if my son is home - which he is usually not - I'll take care of his dinner as well. We do eat out or order often We both take the kids to the doctorWhen the kids were younger I helped them with their homework moreI don't believe that I will get sole custodyTherefore it would be joint - am I entitled to any income from him should the marriage splitWill I have to pay for my sons prep school and my daughters should my husband get sole custodyCredit card bills- mine r high as he does not pay mine off the way he pays his off Should I be concerned about this ?the money he makes pays the billsThe money I make is saved or pays for extrasI have 100 grand in my savings ready to invest for usI put away 25 percent of my income in a retirement system- currently there is 300 grand in thereI have a pension / I know he gets halfThe jewelry I boughtSome artInheritance - my mom passed and left me some money- if I leave it separate will it be considered martial property?I have spent a significant amount of money on jewelry since we've been married - around 35 grand in 13 years I have bought it with te money I earned at work. He is aware - but after the factI know this jewelry is a marital assetAre there any other consequences for my behavior?He spends very we'll himself- of all our years together - paying a mortgage of 2300 a month on an income of at least 250 a year he had saved s total of 100 thousand dollars towards his retirement and his equity in his firmHe has many perks at work - season ranger tickets that he sells access to other thingsMy concern is how will my spending be viewed?all my money is his and accountableMy pensionMy 300 grand in retirementA portion of my stock that I had before we were married100 grand in my bank accountAnd all he had is 100 grand in retirement. He isent concerned about his future because he is counting on the equity in his firmFor spending how far back do they go? 3 years7 years?If I retire with a disability from the doe will he still be entitled to that pension? What other consequences may arise ?Is there a chance of maintenance ?I've paid our health insurance for years - his firm has not given him a credit. Can I collect on that and if so. How far back?Any chance of getting any equity in his firm?What is the best way to find a lawyer and what do I need to do now to prepare myself?
I live in PA. I received this week email from my wife about
I live in PA.I received this week email from my wife about divorce.We have son, 5 years old.I want to receive shared physical custody after divorce for my son.I can work from home 2 days per week to take care about kid and I can always work shifted hours(7.30-3.30) to be able to pick son from kindergarden.I'm not sure if it's enough to fight for my custody.Can i present in court facts, that i can get a babysitter, or ask god mother or mother in law for help when it's required on day. If no, what others options could be considered in my case
JA: . How can we help? Customer: I had a question regarding
hiJA: Hello. How can we help?Customer: I had a question regarding sole legal custodyJA: OK. The Family Lawyer will need to help you with this. Have you consulted a lawyer yet?Customer: I had shared legal and shared physical custody.JA: Please give me a bit more information, so we can help you best.Customer: but in a masters conference today, I was petitioning to modify the visitation schedule as my oldest is 23, then 22, and the youngest is 15. so only applies to youngestJA: Is there anything else important you think the Family Lawyer should know?Customer: the master threw in a "suggestion" to give my ex sole legal custody.JA: OK. Got it. I'm sending you to a secure page on JustAnswer so you can place the $5 fully-refundable deposit now. While you're filling out that form, I'll tell the Family Lawyer about your situation and then connect you two.Customer: he said it was so she could make important medical decisions for urgent care. but I didn't realize the other ramifications of what that meant.
I have some legal custody of my 13-year-old son and joint
I have some legal custody of my 13-year-old son and joint 50/50 physical custody of him with my ex. My son has behavioral issues that get exacerbated when he is with my ex. He lies, steal, vandalizes personal property and gets aggressive with her. He doesn't display these behaviors when he is with me. Just this afternoon (this is my weekend with him)we were passing by her house and he said he needed to use the bathroom so he knocked on her door and entered her house. He is angry with her for taking his smart phone away and he confronted her about it. Despite my pleadings she wouldn't stop engaging with him and things escalated. The police were called to come out and speak with him. My legal question is, he is supposed to go be with my ex the next two days and do I have legal authority as sole legal custodian to say he will not be going to her house and staying with me instead or would this be interfering with her visitation rights?
I live in New York state, and my husband and I are recently
I live in New York state, and my husband and I are recently separated (not legally). As of right now, we discussed sharing physical custody of our two children. JA: OK. The Family Lawyer will be able to help you. Have you consulted a lawyer yet? Customer: I have not JA: Tell us what else you do know and the Family Lawyer will be able to better assist you. Customer: Do I need to have something drawn up legally as far as the custody is concerned, or can it just be a verbal agreement between us both? JA: Is there anything else important you think the Family Lawyer should know? Customer: We have been married for almost 14 years, our children are 11 and 9 JA: OK. Got it. I'm sending you to a secure page on JustAnswer so you can place the $5 fully-refundable deposit now. While you're filling out that form, I'll tell the Family Lawyer about your situation and then connect you two. I'll let you know when it is your turn.