I have a son born in December 2015. Indianapolis, IN. Was
I have a son born in December 2015. Indianapolis, IN. Was not married to mother.We had 3 visis in the first 2 months, but she was too out of control with her emotions and so I did not have much contact with her except texts. They were always rage-filled because we were at each others throats. Not on birth certificate, I pay her $420 per month in child support, always on time. I did not exercise my rights to visitation because of how hostile she is.Recently, Things were getting better. I told her about 50 days ago that I intend to be involved. Like, MUCH more involved after about 3 more months. I had her come over to fix her car (for free). I told her before that meeting that I knew she was planning on moving to Texas, and to not do that or else I would legally take remedies to prevent her from moving him away from me. Sure, I had not had more than 5 visits, but I knew time was needed for her to be civil with me so that the child would be comfortable when she came over with him. Anyways, she told me that she was never considering moving to Texas, and that whoever told me that was mistaken. Well, I saw it first hand on facebook myself. So I knew she was lying. But se assured me she was moving to a friend's house in Noblesville (still Indianapolis). She was supposed to get with me the following week to have more repairs made but never got back with me. That was May 28th, 2017. And I told her she needed to give me an address anytime she moved because I have the right to know where my son is. She resisted at first, but I told her she has to. Even though we have no court order, we decided from the start that we didn't need the courts to order us around. That we would always do the right thing and be civil about the matters of the child. Boy, kicking myself now!So 2 nights ago she asked to have the bank transfers go through a different bank. I ask her for the account number, routing, and her address. I asked for the address because I knew she could not possibly be in the same house come the first of JUNE since her mother and brother all lived there and were moving down to Texas. She was not supposed to go with them, it was an extremely hostile environment and she even said her brother wanted to shoot her, mother is abusive. Her response only had the account and routing number. So I ask again for her address. Her response:"I'm unwilling to give my friend's address. It's not where I'll be living for long and honestly there is no law saying you are required to know where I stay."My response:"Well then I have no choice but to bring this to litigation after talking with a lawyer-friend. I will need an address where you can be served and we'll finally get the paternity done and everything down on paper. After that, you will be indeed required to notify me of where Caden's address is." Caden is the child.Her response (and shcoked to find out she is in freaking Texas!): Ok, well ask your lawyer how to file for Texas, cause that's where I am."I immediately had tunnel vision and a panic attack. Like, my whole world was twisted and screwed up. I threw up.It has been a few hours, so I am calmed down. I will be meeting with an attorney hopefully Tuesday, but I came here to pay for a question so that I can put my mind at ease, or accept defeat if this is that bad.I will have the lawyer file here in Indianapolis to try and get them back here! Please tell me roughly how that will go. Because I have JUST started to get to know my son and she did this, and she is concealing her residence, and just made the decision to keep me from him and even lied about it!On the other hand, maybe something can happen where all ties can be cut and have child support stopped. I mean, she would have to file for child support/paternity herself if I stop paying. My lawyer friend told me stop anyways to get her attention. I will not be using him for anything but advice, using a top firm in the city to make sure I don't get screwed. But honestly, she is going to cause more and more panic attacks in the future and I think it may be best to just cut my loss, but I really feel that her moving away like this, is abandoning my support and I don't think I should have to pay anymore. I already did a calculation when he was born and I was supposed to pay $80 per week. Instead I pay her $420 a month as a thank you for keeping it out of court since I thought we were both adults that could handle our own business without the government telling us what to do. I am a very moral person. She apparently is not.I am so distressed. Your insight on this will help me greatly. Think of Chuck from "Better Call Saul". I feel just like he does when he gets those "electricity" attacks. I feel exactly how he does in this situation. And we all know how that turned out for him at the end of the latest season when he couldn't take the pain anymore.
Ugh - well my bf (now ex) dfys was called on his ex - nj so
hiJA: Hi. How can we help?Customer: ugh - well my bf (now ex) dfys was called on his ex -JA: Family law varies by state. What state are you in?Customer: nj so - the finger is pointing at me that i called - which i didnt - i dont have time for more bs and i have a 6 month old at homeJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: no is this a person or coputerJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: no
It concerns a baby. My son had a brief relationship with a
Hello,,yes, it concerns a baby. My son had a brief relationship with a woman resulting in a pregnancy. My son is 23 and his first child. The girl left for Texas to stay with her family as she didn't like where she was living at the time. She had the baby there and my son flew there to be present for the birth. it was a boy and his last name was put onto the birth certificate but my son did not sign it at the time, because he wanted a paternity test. She had been involved with another man around the time of conception. She has remained in Texas to my son's dismay and mine..his mother. She went to an attorney and is attempting to sue him for child support and he told her he wants to pay. He has sent her a lot of money and she just puts it away and says she doesn't need it. Her attorney wants him to sign a Waiver of Jurisdiction and we are worried that this is a trick to get him to sign all his rights away to be a father..She is saying she is coming back up to Washington State, but now saying she won't bring the baby up until he signs the papers. She wont let him just sign the birth certificate now and is say because he doesn't live in Texas, that this waiver has to be signed in order for him to be able to sign the birth certificate..She removed him from facebook so he can't do phone skype to even see his son. He is eager to be a father and is depressed and feels helpless right now. She is threatning him that if he doesn't sign the papers, that she will put another man's name on the birth certificate and he will never see his son again. He needs some guidance. He is working two jobs and still doesn't have the money for an attorney..JA: Because family law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?Customer: He and I, his mother are in Washington State. She was a resident here but left to stay with her parents, supposedly for a couple months who reside in TexasJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: He spoke a few months ago with an attorney on a 30 minute consultationJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: Just that he and I are seriously concerned that my son who wants to pay child support and wants to be a father won't get that chance and this woman, who now does not like him and is not cooperative with him, has all rights and we believe she is trying to stop my son from even fulfilling his fatherly duties. I believe she wants my son out of the picture completely. She thinks and says that baby is her baby. My son has a clean record and there is no reason at all for her to be acting like this...so, that's it I guess.
My husband had one more concern pertaining to my question
Hi! My husband had one more concern pertaining to my question yesterday. If the non-custodial parent refuses to submit to a paternity test ordered by the state.. would we still be able to pursue child support without hiring an attorney. I filed through the Dept of Health in Ga.
A couple of months ago me and this girl began to hookup. She
A couple of months ago me and this girl began to hookup. She called me a few nights ago and told me that she was pregnant. She's telling me she wants to have this baby and raise it on her own. If we are both in agreement is there a way I can terminate my parental rights and opt out of child support? if so what steps can I take to achieve this
I am in nc and signed a birth certificate. I just found out
I am in nc and signed a birth certificate. I just found out the baby is not mine through at home paternity test. We had the baby May 3 2017 can I get out of child support if I get divorcedJA: Because family law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?Customer: North CarolinaJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: NoJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: That's it
I need to speak to an attorney that specializes in paternity
I need to speak to an attorney that specializes in paternity issues pleaseJA: What state are you in? It matters because laws vary by location.Customer: AlabamaJA: Has anything been filed or reported?Customer: NoJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: The situation is that I'm a nurse and I did an at home paternity test for my brother and it came back that he is the biological father. My brother has schitzophrenia since he was around age 17. He is 44 now. He is disabled and receives a small check each month. The mother doesn't work. She has 4 or 5 kids and her dad has custody of them. All she wants is my brothers disability check. She even told him she was going to get pregnant by him so she could get it. My mom is 78 years old and my brother lives with her. The mom of the baby and her mom have called my mom and threatened her if she did pay them money for the baby. The baby is in Medicaid, WIC, food stamps and probably draws a check. The mom of the baby is on crystal meth. My concern is for my brother. If she takes him to court can she take his check?
I made a mistake and need to know my best options, I live in
I made a mistake and need to know my best optionsJA: What state are you in? It matters because laws vary by location.Customer: I live in FL, she lives in PAJA: Has anything been filed or reported?Customer: No, she is claiming to be pregnant and I am not sure the right thing to do Other than getting a prenatal paternity testJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: does this initial consult have a cost?