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I asked a question concerning a pet my mother-in-law

I asked a question concerning a pet my mother-in-law received back in June. The dog was given to her by the owner because he was getting married and could not keep her any longer. He transferred the pet's medical records to my mother-in-law and gave her the pet. It has been 7 months, and now we are receiving papers to return the pet from his lawyer because it was in his divorce settlement that he had to give the dog to his ex if he were to get rid of the dog. Now his ex found out he gave the dog away and she is demanding that he get the dog back. His lawyer is threatening to take her to court. I was advised by one of the attorney's on here that we were not bound by the divorce decree and that we accepted the pet in good faith and the matter is between he and his ex. His ex's wife's lawyer contacted us and I told him I was not bound by the divorce decree and they would have to take the matter up with her ex husband. What should we do? Do I need to seek council? We live in Virginia?

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I want to revoke my 50/50 custody of my 2 children ages 2

I want to revoke my 50/50 custody of my 2 children ages 2 and 12. It has been a nightmare since I filed for full custody last spring because the children wanted to live with me and mom was having various boyfriends in and out of their home. The judge granted 50/50 custody. Mom is now married and kids are now happy with her and their step father. She doesn't communicate, coparent and our parenting styles are entirely different. Initially my middle school daughter wasn't cheerleader and her mom allowed it without my permission. I'm glad my daughter has extra curricular activities but the problem is I'm having to keep my 5 year old kindergartener out late at night for her ballgames. I also have lived in another county then there school which is approximately 30 min from my home. My son is falling asleep on the way to school. Also when I agreed to the 50/50 custody my boss agreed to let me have some freedom at work. I have been operations manager for 22 years and my company has been bought and all management is losing their jobs. My job will possible be out of state and if not my new company will not allow me to have the freedom that I have now to make the 50/50 custody work. I currently pay child support every week because of income differences between me and my ex. In order to keep doing this I have to find a good job. Bot***** *****ne linitially my ex wanted the custody changed back to me having every other weekend but she is wanted a lot more money and as usual is not being agreeable. Can the judge force her to except custody of the kids and isn't the child support always a calculation? She lives so close to school the kids can walk. I'm tired of fighting with her too. Her goal is to destroy my relationship with my kids and I'm just tired of all the drama. Thank you in advance for your advice.JA: Because family law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?Customer: KentuckyJA: Has anything been filed or reported?Customer: Sorry for any typos or grammatical errors. The way this is set up you can't review what you send. 😊JA: What confuses you?Customer: Can their mother be forced by the judge to accept custody back they way it was she was primary custodian and I had every other weekend visitation because of my upcoming job changeJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: My contacted my current attorney wanted me to take 3 weekends a month to compensate for the 50/50 custody. This will not work since I will be possibly be living out of state but if I accept the other position locally it is management with required weekend call. I can only keep my children every other weekend.

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FamilyAttorney

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My ex partner of 17 years and I were never legally married,

My ex partner of 17 years and I were never legally married, but she adopted both of our children through second-parent adoption in Illinois. I am the birth mother, but she is listed as co-parent on their birth certificates. We broke up in the summer of 2015 and I moved out of our home in February of 2016.We had discussed custody and payment arrangements and had even spoken to a lawyer friend of hers about doing a "modification of adoption" to get all the plans into writing and filed with the courts. Essentially, I was to pay all of the following:1) Kids' health insurance ($164/month)2) Kids' eye glasses and contacts (~$600 for their glasses and $30/month for my son's contacts)3) Kids' cell phones (~$100/month - hard to say since it's part of a package - I pay a total of $207 for 3 lines)4) Blood bank storage fee ($125/year)5) I also do the gymnastics website where our daughter takes gymnastics - so that monthly bill is taken care of by my working it off ($360/month).We are to split any other expenses. Such typical expenses include1) Our son's registration fees for wrestling and football (~$145 each yearly)2) The booster club fees for our daughter's gymnastics ($~1100/year although they vary).3) Any medical expenses are to be split (fortunately we haven't had any other than the occasional doctor visit - which I never asked her to pay for).4) School registration fees. (~$180/year)5) School supplies (~$220/year).Gymnastics is a HUGE expense in our lives. Not only do we have the booster club fees, and the monthly training fee, but we also have travel costs of gas, hotels, food, and sometimes airfare. This year, I had my daughter every weekend we traveled except one. I paid for two nights of hotels each time along with food and gas. She had our daughter the weekend they went to a meet in Las Vegas. She decided to take her girlfriend and our son. Neither are required to go. In fact, only our daughter is required to go and could have gone with the coaches if need be. So our daughter's expenses would be the same as any other meet except her airfare. I did not offer to pay for half of her airfare since I pay for all of her other monthly expenses and have paid for the travel on all of the other meets. It is not MY fault that she took our son when he could have easily stayed home with me. She decided to make it a family vacation for all four of them rather than a gymnastic trip for our daughter. That's not on my dime, as far as I'm concerned.In January of 2016, I wrote my ex a check for $2000 (part of which was to cover the cost of our daughter's trip to Florida for a gymnastics meet). She is now claiming that I was paying for t-shirts and rent. I DID owe her about $750 for t-shirts she'd put on her credit card BUT she'd broken my laptop which cost about the same and I had to replace it so I refused to pay her for the t-shirts. I don't feel like I owed her "rent" in a home I owned with her at the time, but she said I owed it to her since we were broke up. So I stand behind the fact I gave her $2000 for both rent and our daughter's trip. Even if $750 DID go to t-shirts and let's say $300 went for rent for my bedroom (in which I had NO privacy in since she'd keep unlocking the door repeatedly and harassing me emotionally AND physically), that still leaves $950 to pay for my half of my daughter's plane ticket and hotel.A couple months later, after I had moved out, I did her taxes for her for free and even allowed her to claim both children even though we both were working. She claimed the mortgage interest (which was fine by me as she had always done it that way) and both kids and got a huge refund of $7600+. Honestly, I don't begrudge her any of that.The last I was aware she makes $57,000/year teaching and brought home $3600/month (this was before the kids were removed from her insurance and put onto mine, so her take home pay MUST be even more.) As a teacher, she normally gets some kind of small raise each year. Additionally, in all of the previous years we were a couple (17), her father has given her a grain check in late autumn that totals anywhere from $3,500 to $10,000.I make $77,000/year and have no additional source of income or gifts from family members.Another agreement we'd made was that I was to quit claim my half of our home to her and she would relinquish me of all credit card debt. Her credit card at the time totalled out to about $15,000. It was her credit card, but I did have a secondary card in my name. I DID actually quit claim my half of the home to her nearly a year ago, but no other official paperwork was every filed.She says that she paid for everything for years so she shouldn't have to pay any of the kids' monthly expenses now. But in reality, the kids were on my insurance for 3 years when I worked at Network Solutions and for a time while I was self-employed. She was on my insurance many years ago when I worked for Spherion, but I've NEVER been on hers. I was a stay-at-home mom for years BUT I did freelance work on the side and made pretty decent money. We haven't had a gymnastics bill for training in over 4 years thanks to me, and at one time both of our kids were gymnasts so I was saving us well over $600/month. She said that doesn't count because it doesn't come out of my pocket. I work anywhere from 10-15 hours a month on that site, so I definitely think my contributions there matter. I'm saving her $180/month for what would be her half of the gym bill if we actually had to write a check for it. She seems to think that because the bills automatically came out of her checking account that none of my contributions when were together counted for anything. But she sure didn't mind spending all my income as "fun money" and she'd often brag to people about how great it was that I could be at home with the kids and still bring in great money on the side.When I left that house I was only allowed to take my clothing, my t-shirts and heat press, the queen-sized bed I had before I met her, and a few personal items she told me I could have. My "half" of her credit card debt would be $7,500 and ironically that is EXACTLY the amount of construction work I had done on our home by the guy who owns the gym because we took it out in trade for a website. So, in my mind, I owe her nothing financially.We could not seem to come up with a schedule for the kids that worked for us so she suggested I ask my brother what he and his ex-wife do. Their schedule is based on his ex-wife's surgery schedule so it works for them but would not work for most people. I showed her their schedule and she chose to follow it.She has the kids on Mondays, every other weekend and every other Thursday that she doesn't have them that weekend. Fortunately, for HER, on both Mondays and Thursdays only one of our kids have practice. So she only has to run one child around and can spend quality time with the other if she so chooses. Well, on Tuesdays and Wednesdays BOTH kids have practice. One is in Belleville, twenty minutes away and the other is in O'Fallon. I literally spend my entire evening feeding kids, driving kids, helping kids with homework and putting them to bed. I don't actually get to spend time with them. I have asked her several times to consider a new schedule and she refuses to for two reasons.1) She said I'm the one who wanted to leave.2) She plays on a co-ed volleyball league every Wednesday for 6 weeks in the summer and does not want to have the kids on Wednesdays.Now that volleyball team is comprised of all gymnastics parents who ALL bring their children. The kids love to play together and cheer on the parents. So my daughter feels left out because she can't be there. And she can't be there because my ex told her (and me as well but at another time) that she doesn't want me there. So our daughter misses out on all that time with her teammates.But, that's really not the issue. I don't think the children's visitation schedule should be dictated by my ex's social life nor should I be punished for wanting to pursue my own happiness.In order for me to get my daughter to gymnastics practice I have to leave work 2.5 hours early two days a week and have to log back into work later that night after the kids are in bed in order to make up that time. I want to rotate the schedule so that we both have equal time, both have to shoulder the burden of running kids back and forth, and we both can have social lives.Additionally, the kids go to school in the school district where she lives. I agreed to this because I felt it was best that the kids' lives be disrupted as little as possible. This is truly inconvenient, however, since I'm the one who has to pick them up at her house all the time rather than her having to drive over to mine. I'm the parent who gets called when they need a winter coat or forget their homework because I'm the one who works locally.I want to rotate it as follows:Whoever has the kids Friday, Saturday, and Sunday does not have them on Monday, but gets them back on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays. This way neither of us have to go more than 3 days without seeing the kids. We both have to shoulder the responsibility equally of taking kids to practices and events, and we can both have equal time with them.She is punishing me for leaving her for someone else. But, she has moved on and has a live-in girlfriend too. I think it's time she get past all the anger and do what is fair. I don't know if she doesn't realize all the extra running around I do or if she just doesn't care, but I feel like the least she can do is modify the schedule to be more fair. As it stands, in a typical month, she has them 12 days and I have them 18. When it's her weekend, I don't see them for four days in a row. On the days she has them during the week she only has to take one child to practice and can spend time with the other. She pays for none of their recurring monthly expenses. BUT she claims one of them on her taxes.Even though we'd made all these financial and child schedule agreements, the only thing that was ever signed was the quit claim deed forgoing my interest in the home. After a year of paying all of the kids' monthly bills and following the schedule SHE created, I want to modify our arrangement. It was never filed with any court. Even though we both attended the required parenting classes, she never went forth with her lawyer to file any paperwork regarding the children. She says I have to stick with what we agreed upon. I agreed to those conditions under duress. I was sooo desperate to get out of that house I would have said and done almost anything to appease her. The arrangement isn't fair to me or to the kids.I'd like to know what my options are legally. Can I get a new visitation schedule that she will be forced to follow? Can I get her to pay something monthly?

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I had a boyfriend I recently broke up with. He wanted to

I had a boyfriend I recently broke up with. He wanted to swing with couples and I didn't so he would give me his prescription xanax and a strong alcoholic drink to sway my mind. Eventually I started taking xanax to get what I had been doing out of my head. Ended up becoming addicted and had to go to rehab. I got out and he started the same thing with the xanax and alcohol to swing except this time he started paying me afterwards also. He knew I was a single mother and took advantage of that. I still cry about this everyday, it went on for 3 years, I finally left. Is there anything that can be legally done for this?

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As a grandparent I have been raising my grandkids 14 & 14

As a grandparent I have been raising my grandkids 14 & 14 for about 6 years, they are ages 7 & 10, my son recently was married about one 1year ago that lasted 4 months, he filed for a divorce that apparently never went thru.in the time period they had some on & off issues but now supposedly thy are living back together in the last week. She wants control of the children and says that I have no rights to them. Is there anything that I can do to keep living arrangements the same to keep stability in their lives? Do step parents have any legal rights to them?JA: Because family law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?Customer: LouisianaJA: Has anything been filed or reported?Customer: Not yet.JA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: No

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My Son's girlfriend is pregant - due in May and she broke up

My Son's girlfriend is pregant - due in May and she broke up with him. She is talking about adoption. Does not he have the right, as long as it is his, for full custody if he wants the baby.JA: Because family law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?Customer: TexasJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: Nope this is the first stepsJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: No - As long as the baby is his and he chooses full custody, what does he have to do? She keeps changing her mind. I want him to be prepared and know what to do and how to do it. They will never be a couple.

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I have been in a family court case NYC for four years

I have been in a family court case NYC for four years because I was talking to my daughter about the case. I am still going through supervised visits. My daughter called me last week and indicated that her mother told her about one of our conversations and mentioned court issues. In other words, her mother has been talking to her about court related issues. I do not have a lawyer. What should I be doing...JA: Since laws vary from place to place, what state is this in?Customer: NYJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: I do not have the reourcesJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: that's it

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Law Edu. Follow up and it is a doozy! now. First... I've

Hi Law Edu. Follow up and it is a doozy! Good day now.First...I've learned through a recent file on the record for suit that my lawyer did not file any (not 1) attachment to support such viable claim. But, did attach(As i cite here weeks ago)the relevant depositions, that is it. (Not even my transcript/and not even my child's 2 hour or longer transcript,where child was saying, finally admitting and i quote,"I was robbed of my mom, i was robbed of my "entire life/my world she was to me." My child also cite, "I was being all the time mistreated in "dad home/with his new wife, abused,by step-parent,for some time."I was also called a liar and a bad child by the "caseworker." I was "coerce/force to say things that were not true about my mom by abusive step parent, who always would scare me/frighten me if i did not do it."I was given alot of meds/drugs,and i was said to have "seen a dr., to prove abuse by my mom."But i was old enough to remember IF i seen a dr., and i did not go see a doctor, where i hear a caseworker substantiate abuse."The only abuse i've suffer from was being kept from mom for a long time, and in foster homes, and outside the foster homes, sex abuse, rape, gang-rape and not at any time a cps worker came and remove me, to give me back to mom. My father also did not take care of me at all, but would pretend "he was, so DCF would think he was."DCF barely would "look in other rooms of dad house the short time i was there,and not bounced to many foster homes."DCF would've smell beer/seen dad drunk again if they had visit more and look throughout the house."Caseworker is also friends with step-mom, so she would come by"smoke with step-mom, and hang outside, and or go for rides in each other cars."Shouldn't such relevant facts be included Law Edu; as an exhibit? It was not and i await your feedback before i type the other relevant(HUGE)part in the other part of query thanks again.P.S. daughter is right on them knowing each other on a personal level ...Mom(me)the lawyer i had for custody years prior found documentation LINKING step-mom & caseworker for the state linking them as friends/and or family.During deposition(caseworker, under direct, was asked, "Do you know ----the step mom who is married to the children father.)She said, NO. Flat out,she said NO. Then at depo, we pulled out such proof online and she was force to alter her answer and say,"Um, oh yea."I actually do know her.Yes. we are friends.(Facebookfriends) albeit yes we are friends, yes i know her personally etc.-Yet,again lawyer failed to attach daughter transcript, where child admit, the state worker and her step-mom know each other,as this is clearly a "motive insofar as why the children were given to a crack head,caucasian male, who clearly was not fit,a convicted serious felon, not fit at all to raise a cat,let alone two little children and then teen-children."I really need feedback and await your answer, thanks alot.

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If a couple who had been divorced almost three years ago and

If a couple who had been divorced almost three years ago and share two kids and decides to obtain an order of protection against ex AND named the children on the OPP banning the Mom from seeing the kids at all, does the plaintiff parent assume all custody for the children for the duration of time order is in place (one year)?

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