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My wife and I are in the midst of a mediated divorce in

My wife and I are in the midst of a mediated divorce in Mass. My wife has earned and will continue to earn substantially more than me, and over the next four years will take 100% responsibility for college expenses for two children (one entering her senior year, and the other his freshman year.We have three 529 plans that will cover some of those expenses: one for each child, funded by my wife via payroll deductions, and one funded by my parents in our second child's name. The remainder, ~$196K(!) are to be paid out of her future earnings.We agree that this substantial financial burden should be factored in to the settlement (I will be the beneficiary of both alimony the division of marital assets, most of which are in her 401K. The question is: what is a fair way to calculate that adjustment -- e.g., 100% of that $196K? 50% of it? Or some other proportion?Many thanks.We have agreed that this huge financial obligation should recognized via a reduction in the ultimate

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Roger

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I am 61 years old and my divorce was finalized on 12/11 2014.

I am 61 years old and my divorce was finalized on 12/11 2014. i live in trenton, new jersey, mercer county.the divorce was a mediated divorce and I willingly gave everything to my ex-wife. I took nothing but my personal effects from the marriage.I made one demand and that was to have 12 months to have access to the family photo albums and tapes to make copies for me.the agreement states that I must give 2 weeks notice to pick up the albums (2 at a time), I have 2 weeks to copy them, and then return them, at which time I will receive 2 more, etc.the first 2 albums pick up, return, etc., went fine, as did the next 2. however, with this most recent pick up, return (returned to my ex-wife on sunday, may 17, 2014) and she texted me and said that two photos were out of order and "the deal is off", "no more albums".I know that the photos were placed back in the exact spot that they were taken and that this is an excuse made by my ex-wife to prevent me from access. I had returned the first 4 albums without issue (although I would receive texts from my ex-wife that were terrible and hateful), but I kept going.I know that I am within my rights to have access to these albums. I do not have an attorney but I want to file a complaint with the appropriate NJ office to make my ex-wife comply. Please also know that I did make three requests to my ex-wife's attorney to please talk with her but I he has not done anything.can you please direct me to the right office in New Jersey, Mercer County to file a complaint about her breaching this agreement and that her lawyer is doing nothing about it? I need specific contact information for this office so I may contact them. thank youBob Voorhees

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Roger

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I am retired and collecting social security benefits,as is my wife.During divorce negotiat

I am retired and collecting social security benefits,as is my wife.During divorce negotiations (mediated divorce)would my spouse be entitled to any portion of my social security income,as with pension,IRA,etc.?

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ScottyMacEsq

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Hello My name is XXXXX XXXXX I am in desperate need of help.

Hello My name is XXXXX XXXXX I am in desperate need of help. I have been married to my Pakistani husband for 15 years and we have to children. I am a citizen by birth and he became one after two years in the country. I have just learned in the last week that during my husband's visit to Pakistan almost 9 years ago he got married. This while I was 8 months pregnant with our second child. He and his Pakistani wife also have two children After yeas of cruelty and indifference he now feels that since everything out we should reconcile and make our marriage work. He lives in the downstairs of our home and have been physically separated for the past 6 years due to his drinking and cruel behavior. Now he feels that since he is no longer drinking and has "come clean" I should "make things work". NEVER have I wanted to run as far and fast as I do now. . Unfortunately, because I am being treated for physical problems {car accident years ago} I depend on him financially and tells me I will suffer financially if I divorce him. We have a modest home {which I want} and a pizza/deli. Please, Please advise...I'm so in shock by all of this my head I spinning.

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Steven K.

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I was poorly represented in mediation divorce, our mediator

I was poorly represented in mediation divorce, our mediator did a very poor job and left the door open for me to get taken to the cleaners during the QDRO mediation part of divorce. Several verbal agreements were made during divorce mediation and attorney said it would be handle with a MSA and during QDRO. Well after divorce final ex fired mediator got differant attorney and is now and as taken me to the cleaners. The more I research the more I find out how bad the mediator was. Can I anul mediation final divorce and take all back to court, ex fired mediator knowing that she could not be taken to court to testify on verbal agreements made during mediation and what ex wife agreed to and then went against when taking my retirement. I am in california is it possible to retry divorce and start from scratch to get fairness.

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Hi, My wife (of 23 years) are currently going thru a mediated

Hi, My wife (of 23 years) are currently going thru a mediated divorce in CT. Since our mediator, although an attorney, can cannot actually represent either of us --- I want to confirm some points re: alimony. According to the mediator, the alimony calculation goes something like take the higher wage earners salary, minus the lower wage earners salary, divide by 2 to arrive at the yearly alimony payment. The alimony duration is about half of the total years married -- 11.5 for us --- or until she is remarried/co-habitating. I'd like to confirm if that above calulation sounds accurate and based on the fact I'm 58 yrs old, is there any consideration for shortening the alimony duration, say until I retire ?

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ScottyMacEsq

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I recently completely my preliminary divorce agreement with

I recently completely my preliminary divorce agreement with a mediator/divorce attorney. In going through this process i learned that this particular mediator was quite dishonest about his fees. Therefore we (my soon-to-be ex-husband and I) are seeking new legal assistance to complete our divorce process, as we no longer wish to work with our current attorney. What type of attorney should I be looking up for this?

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Ely

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I am a father wanting to get full legal and physical custody

I am a father wanting to get full legal and physical custody of my daughter. My divorce papers have been filed for almost 1 1/2 yrs. No mediation or anything yet. have all the documentation af time with my daughter and this year her mom has chose to only be with her for 45 days. What should I do?

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Amber E.

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Married for almost 23 years and divorcing in New York. Regarding

Married for almost 23 years and divorcing in New York. Regarding using a Mediator for divorce in New York, does the couple have free reign to decide whether a jointly-owned property is sold or there is a buyout? If we go to court, I've confirmed my husband could force me to take his buyout offer on our jointly owned NJ beach house which he has been living in for 13 months. I can't afford to buy him out and I don't want him to have the property because 1. he would be scooping up the house at a really cheap price and cutting me out of future profits when it's sold down the road and 2. I found out he has been entertaining his mistress there for 2 years. We were supposed to retire in that house last June. For obvious reasons, it eats me up to give him that house. I want it sold.

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Samuel II

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