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My 4 year old son likes to watch unboxing videos on youtube,

My 4 year old son likes to watch unboxing videos on youtube, especially unboxing and how other kids are playing. What this might mean? Will he want this toys in a market, or visa versa - he's like playing on his own?

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I am divorced from the father of my 19 year old son, he used

i am divorced from the father of my 19 year old son, he used to share time at both homes most of his life. Since mid february he has not spent the night here, he stays at his fathers house. honestly, though he won't admit it, the few times he has come here, it appears the real reason is he needs something from me, usually involving money, or me to do something for him. I talk to him about it and he is very defensive says that this is not true and gets angry at me . it ends up with him using him getting angry as the reason why he doesn't come home because he doesn't want to get in an argument with me. I have told him that I understand he is growing up and wants more independence and it is ok if he want to move to dads. he insists he doesn't, yet his room continues to be a place to just keep his stuff. thoughts?JA: I should have chatted with the Psychologist on a daily basis with my two kids. And maybe about my brothers, too. You are so doing the right thing getting in touch with one of them. Is there anything else important you think the Psychologist should know?Customer: he has taken a semester off of college due to hip surgery and while he appears recovered, he is an athlete and not ready to return to play sports, so he is working part time and we are supporting him for big things like car, car insurance, healthcare and phone. His father does not chip in for this stuff at all and it burns me that he chooses to live there and show up here when he needs a check. i asked him to look at it from my shoes so he could maybe recognize how it makes me feel. I said i would like for him to have the thoughtfulness to plan ahead amore often than for a special occasion like mothers day to get together, it just doesn't feel right to not see him for weeks and then within the first few minutes of him stopping in i find myself writing checks

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My fiancé is having a terrible time with her 6 year old and

Hello. My fiancé is having a terrible time with her 6 year old and has been having issues with him since he was born. Her and I have been doing a long distance relationship now for almost three years. I have no kids and I'm 34 years old. She has one son who is 6 and she's 30 years old.From the beginning of our relationship it was very clear that she was having many issues in parenting her child. Her son has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on medication for it since I believe he was 3. He has been recently tested for autism because he has some of the traits. We believe it to be on the milder side and his pediatrician believes it be a sensory form of autism. We should be getting the results back on that soon. He's on an anti psychotic medicine that's supposed to help with his violent outbursts. He also has to take sleeping meds so he stays asleep through the night. As far as I know, even when he was a baby, he's never napped.You literally cannot do anything you want to do as an adult as long as he is around. Go to the grocery store. Not happening. Go to a restaurant. No way. Want to take a quick break and watch something on tv while he colors or plays with a toy. Nope. He requires almost constant attention and has always been that way. He is independent in the sense that he wants to do everything himself, but he requires constant attention in the sense that he will not play alone.He is very very very busy. His meds help somewhat but morning and nights are the worst because that's before he's had meds and at night they've already worn off. She's never been able to experience being a happy parent with her child without getting upset because he constantly has tantrums, back talks, only wants to do what he wants and will get extremely upset if you tell him no on anything. It's something I'm not used to seeing because all my nieces and nephews do not have these issues. I'm used to seeing a child listen when you tell him something. Not him. He will fight and fight when he's upset and doesn't get what he wants.Now, after saying all of this, here is my primary concern. Violence. He gets very very violent with his mom and his grandmother. He kicks, punches, throws things and will abuse animals from time to time. The thing is, he only does it with his mom and just a little with his grandmother. She shares custody with the sons father 50/50. Week on week off. He does not have violent outbursts when he's at his dads. Not even towards his dad's wife. It's almost 100% with his mother only. He's been in behavioral therapy now for 3 years and I've seen some progress, but not much. He's able to communicate his frustrations more now but I think that has to do with his speech therapy.Her and her son will be moving in soon and I'm concerned with this. As her future husband, my mindset is to separate him from his mother anytime he gets violent. In my mind, when he hits, kicks and punches his mom, he no longer is allowed to be around her. I've suggested when that happens, he goes back to his fathers house and is told that as long as you abuse your mommy, you will not be around her. I think behavioral therapy is great for him and will help his overall mental state with other people, kids, teachers etc. But he continues to abuse and yell at his mother and not listen. But he will listen to others. In my mind, I think he and his mother need some sort of counseling together and he should not be allowed to have anymore overnights with her until this violent behavior stops. He needs to know there are consequences for that. He is very smart and knows what he is doing and can be very vindictive.I would really appreciate any thoughts or advice from people because I only want what's best and I feel like what's been happening is not working. Thank you all for taking the time to read.

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If a child wants something, but his/her parents say "no,"

If a child wants something, but his/her parents say "no," and he/she tries his very best to "NOT" be spoiled and realize that he/she can't/will not always get what he/she wants, what should be said to him/her in order for him/her not to be sad though because he/she wants something that he/she can't have? How should he/she deal with this type of situation so that he/she is not sad? Thank you.

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We have a son that is 43 years old. Suffers from depression

We have a son that is 43 years old. Suffers from depression and has poor social skills. Extremely introverted and can't seem to hold a job. He alwas has problems wit his boss and ends up getting fired. He is seeing a psycologist and is on depression medication. However, he is still depressed and recently was fired again after less that a year employment. We want him to go to a life coach. However, he refuses. I've talked to him, given him articles about how to keep a job and bought him "How to win friends & influence people". There are plenty more issue, I'm frustrated and concerned and don't know how to help him.JA: The Psychologist will know what to do. Is there anything else important you think the Psychologist should know?Customer: He has very low self-esteem and lacks common sense sometimes.

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My youngest child often goes into tantrums whenever she does

My youngest child often goes into tantrums whenever she does not get what she wants. How do you get my kid to behave?

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My daughter is 4 years old, Before 2 weeks we closed tha

HiJA: Hi. What is your issue regarding?Customer: My daughter is 4 years old,JA: The Psychologist will know what to do. Please tell me everything you can so the Psychologist can help you best.Customer: Before 2 weeks we closed tha backyard door wheen she was swimming with family kids, she was afraid cause she tried to open the door to come to me inside the house but she couldn't, it took me only 2 minutes to come and open for hereJA: I should have chatted with the Psychologist on a daily basis with my two kids. And maybe about my brothers, too. You are so doing the right thing getting in touch with one of them. Is there anything else important you think the Psychologist should know?Customer: Since that time she became afraid or terrified of closed doors

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I am a step mom to a 21 year old girl. I have been part of

I am a step mom to a 21 year old girl. I have been part of her life for 10 years now and my biggest issue with her is her self absorbed attitude. No matter what the situation,conversation or event, it all turns to and must be about her. If my husband puts his head on my shoulder, my 21 year old needs to put her head on his. Every conversation or TV show somehow turns to be about her and she brags about her life. I just do not have it in my to handle this much longer. Unfortunately, she has moved back in from undergrad school and plans to stay with us through graduate school and she is making me miserable. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

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I am a stepgrandmother, so I must tread lightly. I'm having

I am a stepgrandmother, so I must tread lightly. I'm having problems communicating with this twenty something generation of parents. My 3 grandkids, all under 10, were explaining to me about "snitches". They say that telling on people is bad, and if you tell on someone, you are a "snitch". You will go to jail, and the person you were "snitching" on won't get in trouble. I'm almost 60, so maybe it's normal and it's a generational difference. I mentioned it to another family with young children, and they said, "We don't like the word snitch, so we told our kids that tattletales are "rats". So, my question is, should I open my mouth and address this, or am I out of bounds? My concern is that something will happen that their mom should know about, and they won't "snitch". I hate that word.

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