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I've asked a lot of questions lately but my situation scares

Hi.I've asked a lot of questions lately but my situation scares me quite a bit and changes daily.The issue is my Ex- is blackmailing me to drop the child support arrears he owes b/c he's going to lose his apartment + have to move back to Florida or be homeless in NYC. He's been unemployed since November from a sales job with a decent salary and has decided since then that he can make $65k as a street artist (clearly that's not working out).The context... We've never been married. I supported him financially for three years b/c he refused to work or was fired from every job. He has borderline personality disorder and the emotional abuse I've been through it mind numbing and I've kept track of a lot of it in my journal and a few therapists are well aware of everything. He's literally made me feel insane at times gas lighting me adn blaming me for his issues and eventually through breaking me down I started to believe everytime something in his life went badly it was my fault.He's threatened suicide b/c I wouldn't let him move back into the apartment without a job. He ended up institutionalized for two weeks b/c of it and diagnosed at that time with Borderline.He admitted to a sex addiction after I found him sexting with multiple women and found THOUSANDS + THOUSANDS of images of porn. (he now denies the sex addiction and says I told him he was a sex addict). Some of his ismage were on teenage sites with very young looking girls (I have proof of some of this on my phone b/c he connected his phone to our apple tv and forgot so I could see what he was downloading).The threat he's making is that when I found out he was cheating again after I let him back into my home I slapped him (two years ago). He claims it happened twice but I do not remember the alleged second time. I am mortified I reached that point and ran out to call my therapist b/c I was so upset but the manipulation, humiliation, financial trapping and lying had destroyed me. I was rock bottom and I snapped.The other thing he's threatening is a recording of me freaking out and yelling I hated him two months after we had Ruby. He refused to support her (he finally got a job at that point), threatened DNA tests, kept saying she wasn't his. (I don't care he suggested I cheated b/c I have never done that - it was the fact he suggested he didn't want her when she's such a perfect little girl). I also had HORRIBLE post partum as I'm bipolar and my emotions, as I'm sure most women experience we're way off.I'm terrified the judge would take my little girl away b/c of those two things b/c I am bipolar (+ 5.5 years sober from booze). I have never missed a day of medicine, I do not have any swings, I see my doctor regularly and have numerous therapists, sponsors, friends, colleagues that would testify on my behalf that I am a great mother, a stable human being and that I take my mental health seriously.I am willing to drop the arrears but I do not trust him to not pursue these accusations. Do I have to worry? Should I negotiate with him out of court and draw up a document with a lawyer to protect me from his accusations or is it normal for these hearings to get ugly and what he "has on me" is kind of normal? Oh and he was kicked out of a anger managment group therapy b/c he was so argumentative with the therapist and some of the women said he scared them and wouldn't leave the building when he did.Sorry this is so long but the context of our "issues" are important and I am legitimately scared the "slap" would really create question around me being a stable mother.Thank you

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