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Maureen, I was married 20 years and he was in the Air Force

Maureen, Hi. I was married 20 years and he was in the Air Force for 14 of those years. He just retired last Sunday as a Navy Commander with 22 years.JA: Are you overseas or stateside?Customer: we are both in Tx. it was not an issue in the divorce because he got oout of the AF after 14 years and then went back into the Navy Reserves I guess around 2003 or so. I have everythiing in terms of paperwork finished and I am a 100% Disabled Vet (Vietnam Era Nurse) for PTSD/MST and Individual Unemployability. So when I went to get the divorce i found amazing and flagrant fraud and concealment. You have never heardof this but maybe you have. I was forcibly exiled for a period of 2 years and could not come within 75 miles of San Antonio. This judge and my exhusband gave me 30 days to completely dismantle, fracture, and lose my very life. No one even can comprehend this (Earl Warren said it best) because it is so outrageously tortuous that I completely broke down. He is a triple board certified Harvard fellowship expert witness Psychiatrist. My divorce was 43 pages and the criminal filings paperwork was I think 568 pages. He was afraid that I would expose his secret life but I never said a word, my children were 15 and 16 and I could never humiliate them like that. So never one word out of my mouth in this public forum and sure enough, the minute he gets on the stand he whines that I curse at him with accusations and epitaphs. Epitaphs? My, my. I suffered police brutality, was beaten to a pulp by my daughters drug addict unemployed boyfriend and I went to the Dr the next day, he did a complete exam, called the police and they came and took a report and took pictures. 15 pages from my doctor about what happened that night are gone. Out of almost 600 pages of total abuse of process, power and influence, and I just saw this when I got a copy of it last week. He is bad. He made around 30K a month, his child support was 1200, what is that, like 3.9%? He just did not pay it and then had me EXILED, DEPORTED, BANISHED, SHAMED, BROKEN HUMILIATED, LOST, AND JUST BROKEN AND CONFUSED. But most of all I feared jail. Who cared about Child Support? So the very day after I was banished, sobbing like a baby in a Motel 6 in Austin with a 24 foot Penske truck with everythinhg I could get in there, my car hooked to the back and I couldn't even rent an apt because I was now unemployed...I owned my own Portrait Studio and into the 2nd year of opening, it was over. I was elated. But then a day after the Attorney General notified him he was being sued for around 10 K at the time and so he would get MULTIPLE UPON MULTIPLE restraining ordders, protective orders, all ex parte, all with such unrelenting malice and determination to gaslight me to the point of actual exile. I am a textbook case and I just read about the characteristics and I am definatley and was for 20 solicd years by this piillar of the Community, healer of the mind, expert witness in tons of cases and knows all the powerful attorneys. That's just that. But I want to know if I can get my share of that 20 years? I worked 3 jobs as a nurse so he could go to med school. He's so gay that he got a "pretend" girlfriend, a lesbian Prozac Rep and he'd leave all sorts of clues around as if I didn't know what he was doing.JA: Have you talked to anyone in the chain of command about this?Customer: i don't care about that now but i have no hope that i can get this although you go straight to the DFAS and garnish that stuff. So when we divorced, he was a Major with 14 years in so that's the portion I would get my percentage of. I got a copy of The Silent Partner and have learned a lot. Not one lawyer in this town so far has even been civil to me. They talk to me like I"m just an idiot. What do you mean, chain of command, he's retired now. He is such an EMOTIONALLY VIOLENT angry frustrated closeted macho man that I'm just scared to death of him. He has beaten me and choked me until I thoughjt I would pass out and every one of those times it would be over something about his sexual who knows what and who cares. I could care less.JA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: I appreciate you listenig to all of this but all I want to know is how do i get this court order filled out? And what about this fraud with My assault (I was beaten in the face with his fists and bruised for 3 weeks . How those lawyers and that judge could look at what that punk did to me and ignore it and "punish" me by making me "vacate Bexar County" They hid that, and it happened when he was at a Psychiatry and the Law Conference in Kansas City. The kid stole my credit card, got the bill that day, 1500. and a lot of them were these crack house motels oh my God I was so broken for my daughter, I thought he was pimping her out or something, Those places see, I'm sobbing right now like a baby. That's what this f**king PTSD does and now that I had to look at this fraudulent divorce stuff I'm right back there. I cannot work as a nurse because of "family violence" related nonsnese, omg, the charges tjat came up with my fingerprints made it impossible at age 63 to wait around 2 years for the board of nurses to decide if i could be a newborn/labor and delivery nurse and the cost would be about 20 thousand dollars. i can't saee even to type i'm crying too hard.

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