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I got divorced in November 2015, would have been married 30

I got divorced in November 2015, would have been married 30 years in June. Told my Lawyer when I first met her I retired with a medical disability (Mental Health). Also told her about how my now ex-husband had rolled over my 401K/457 retirement funds under his management in 2009 and had extra-marital affair. During this time my husband never had any discussions with me about my investment account or shown me any statements, or let me see any of our tax returns. I discovered last year he had been withdrawing monies out of my account without my knowledge since 2010 to the tune of over $150,000. Not only have I lost this money, I have lost the Revenue it would have produced for those years. My divorce lawyer told me I would get half the business, 50% of his pensions and investments (which he withdrew and hide while secretly planning this divorce for some time) , keep the little left of my retirement account, was entitled to spousal/alimony indefinitely, get 1/2 proceeds from sale of 3rd card and proceeds from sale of martial home be used to pay off martial debts. What I got was to keep what was left in my retirement investment account, $11,000 from the sale of the house and he pay the liens on the house from the sale, he pay on a life insurance policy we had on him until the life of its term w/me as beneficiary (which I asked for), and any back Federal, State, City taxes owed from I think 2007-2015, my passport, 1/2 proceeds from a piggy bank (which he wanted) and a big lawyer's bill. All I kept hearing during mediation was if we didn't settle in mediation the Judge is going to be mad, if the mediator keeps running back and forth how much it would cost me for his fee and hers, and the Judge doesn't look at Assets which are gone, only available assets (which meant to me she wouldn't consider what he took from me, after being told "we had him by the balls," because of this. She was suppose to be my voice and say something like 'this isn't acceptable." But instead she said "Don't you want him to keep the business so he can generate income to pay you spousal/alimony support?," so I said yes, which I didn't receive because she said I was better off keeping my left over investment funds rather than having to split it with him??? When negotiating for some money from the house he made a 2 counter offer and I didn't want to budge, but then my lawyers started in about the mediator running back and forth and the cost, and if we had to go to Court the Judge would be mad we didn't settle in mediation. The mediator chimed in about all the evidence the Judge would want and the cost, and my lawyer started talking about a trial may cost me over $20,000. It wasn't enough I was brow beaten, coerced and intimidated by my husband, now I had 2 other people causing me additional anxiety and nervousness, which I already had. I don't know if I can do anything about how the divorce turned out, but I do want my money back from my investment account with interest. The investment company holds responsibility also because I found out since he was my relative extra protection is suppose to be used by the company in safeguarding client fund and securities every year. Also, they informed my husband in advance when they were coming rather than doing surprise visits, applying him to 'prep the files.' There lack of due diligence allowed him to withdraw money from my account and if I hadn't found out by accident last year, he probably would have continued until my funds were depleted. How can I find an Attorney to file a FINRA Arbitration against the investment firm to recoup my money and damages?

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We are trying to do a separation agreement and we are having

We are trying to do a separation agreement and we are having a issues agreeing. I had an extra-marital affair and my husband does have email proof. Our children have remained with me while my husband left. He says he will not pay child support and will not agree to have I a part of our agreement. The kids are with me a majorirty of the time and see him every other weekend. He does pay daycare costs ($900/ month) for one child. Will he still have to pay the $350 the NC child support calculator suggests?

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10-03-1998 A child was born to my Spouse and paternal father

10-03-1998 A child was born to my Spouse and paternal father was in question, as I was able to confirm she had an extra-marital affair during the peiod this child was conceived.08-20-1999, I filed for divorce and she vacated the home I provided with the child in question, filed for child support and due to financial reasons, I was not able to afford an attorney (she maxed out the credit cards to hire hers). When time came to meet in Family law court, her attorney told me that Virginia had something caled a "Bastard law" in which even if I questioned the childs paternity, Since she was born tand raised for atime under my roof, I was responsible for her support until patenity could be established.07/01/2000, I was informed by a close friend of hers that the child was the result of her infidelity, she had confessed this to him and he felt compelled to do what was right and told me. I filed for a paternity test in Aug 2000, but according to the local Sheriffs Department, they could not locate her to be served.Fast Forward: I have paid child support for the entire period from 1998 to present day at the rate of 612.00 / month. The child becomes emanciipated on 10-3-2015 by age and will finish High School on June 30, 2016.What recourse do I have to reccoup the 138,000.00 I have been required to pay illegally?

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What denotes emotion vs physical distress? If a spouse

What denotes emotion vs physical distress? If a spouse repeated wakes up someone in the middle of the night to question them to answers allegations they have based on items they are reviewed. Please include how this would be better described in legal terms.

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I would like to file base upon adultery, does

I would like to file for divorce base upon adultery, does this gain anything over a simple uncontested divorce? I can proved adultery without having to get a private investigator, I have emails and test messages from my husband as well as from his mistress.

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My deceased brothers ex wife has a daughter from an extra-marital

My deceased brothers ex wife has a daughter from an extra-marital affair which why she is the ex-wife, but is not my brothers. My brother passed away a few weeks ago and she not only filed for support for his children but for her daughter as well, she will be getting $700.00 a month for the one child alone. Is this legal, she did get pregnant while they were married, but they did divorce, he never claimed the child but she gave him his last name?

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I need someone thats knows military law, my son in law is

I need someone that's knows military law, my son in law is a deployed marine in Afghanistan, he just left april 21 2014, will be gone for 7 to 9 months. His wife, My daughter had an extra marital affair, a child was born here in new jersey, court ordered DNA test results came back after he was deployed to find out the other guy was the biological father of the 18 month old. Many issues came up to the point were NJ dept of child protection and perm. [ DYFS] took custody of both my daughters children. we have the 18 month old with us under temp. foster care and her husbands parents have the three year old who is my son in laws son. Of course everyone is trying to reunite my daughter with both boys. Now we are told that the other guys parents are [ going ] to get a lawyer to go after custody of the 18 month old thereby splitting up the two brothers. The 18 month old was born into a legal marriage here in NJ, his birth certificate has my son in laws name on it. First can they take away my son in laws parental rights when he is not here to defend himself with counsel? further can the other grandparents and or so called father get custody of the 18 month old

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I am going to talk to the Catholic Church... about my estranged

I am going to talk to the Catholic Church...about my estranged wife and here is the very short of it:1. wife is catholic school teacher with morality clause in contract.2. wife covered up the conception of our daughter out of wedlock, but told some close teacher friends. word probably spread.3. wife covered-up previous lesbian relationship of two years prior to her and i meeting.4. wife covered-up admitted crimes including conspiracy which went mostly to cover-up5. wife had women in our marital bed in july of 2013, and filed a fraudulent PFA to evict me and discredit me so I couldn't' disclose this and6. wife had extra-marital affair during close to same period of time, and gets pregnant, 7. wife either had abortion telling few or a miscarriage (my research says abortion, but either way).None of this can she do with her employer. If she was just a bad person, maybe I wouldn't care. However, she had told me how she had the female students give her back massages at work and I saw the way she looked at them and talked about them, andwell, she has custody of my kids and is the worst role model I can think of...So, since this is not just a religious matter but a very sensitive legal matter; how should I talk to the Diocese what should I be saying and should I be doing this in writing??

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If you are first separating and going to file for divorce,

If you are first separating and going to file for divorce, is it possible to prevent a child from seeing his father's new girlfriend? The father has already recklessly taken the child out with this girl 3 times (even before the marriage was over) and the child does not like the girl even though she was introduced as "a friend". The child is 7 and the girlfriend has the same first name as his mother and the child told the mother and others that the girl was mean to him. The child gets very agitated and upset in regard to anything having to do with the mere mention of this girl and has expressed that he does not like her and does not want to see her. Yet there have been outings with the 3 of them and "accidental run-ins" at the beach, even though she lives about a half hour away. What can a mother do to prevent the father, who doesn't see him that frequently anymore to begin with, from bringing her around on the already little time the father sees the child?

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