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I met a women on a dating site.....I asked her before I saw

I met a women on a dating site.....I asked her before I saw her on the phone if she would stay the night with me at my hotel room. She said yes she would. We both agreed we wouldn't have sex. When I picked her up she had her overnight bag. And after dinner we went to my hotel room. She had a little pj bottoms and a tee shirt on, I had a tee shirt on. Well I turned my back and she put her hand on my shoulder and tapped it I turned around and we started kissing and getting arroused, anyway I asked her to take her panties off and her shirt which she did immediately. She opened her legs and we had sex......later that night I was holding her and kissed her on the cheek and she put her hand on he back of my neck and we kissed and had sex again. All completely 100% unforcedThe next day I went home and texted her once or twice and she then called me saying that she didn't feel comfortable with things and that she filed rape charges but at the present time not filing charges. She said she kept her panties. The police I guess told her to try to work it out and see if things worked out and if she wanted to press charges. Over the past two days I have been communicating with her (in a very nice way) and said I would continue to see her. She also keeps asking for money for things.....in addition the night of her supposedly filing a report, she sends me a very provocative photo of her in a bra.Can you offer advice on what to do about this I know I made a mistake seeing this women but I know it was not forced sex at all.

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Last Friday 10-25-13, I was at the bar with my friends and

Last Friday 10-25-13, I was at the bar with my friends and boyfriend. I had 2 or 3 drinks and ended up blacking out for a couple hours. When I got home I got angry for no reason, couldn't put any words together, busted down my front door (it was already half-way broken), broke a few other household things, and hit my boyfriend. He called the law because he said I wouldn't calm down. Again, I don't remember any of this. When the sheriffs got there they asked him if he wanted to press any charges and he said no. They took me to jail to hold me for 8 hours to sober up and charged me with disorderly conduct-intoxication. Everyone involved that night think I was "drugged". It is very unlike me to blackout let alone get angry for no reason and destroy things. I am currently a nursing student and I have been worried sick that I'm going to get kicked out of my program. I have a background check I am getting tomorrow but my court date isn't until 11-8-13. Will this charge show up on my background check? Also, I'm not sure if I should plea not guilty or what. This is my first offense. I have been worried absolutely sick but I'm thankful I didn't get charged with domestic violence or something.When I went to jail, did that count as an arrest? I don't remember being fingerprinted or anything and I didn't have to be bailed out. Thank you.

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i was out at a bar. I had just met a girl. She was very drunk

i was out at a bar. I had just met a girl. She was very drunk and hanging all over me. I told her she needed to stop drinking. I was with my friends and I was about 20 miles from home. I even texted my old girlfriend and asked her to come and help me because this girl was all over me and I felt uncomfortable. About a half hour later, the bartender starting yelling that I gave the girl some kind of date rape drug becasue she was so out of it. Several people in the bar acted like they were going to fight me. I left so I wouldn't getinto a fight. I heard the girl went to the hospital and the police were called. I did not give her anything she was just very drunk. I had no intentions of leaving with her, I live in my mother's home. I am worried they are going to arrest me. I don't do drugs and have non on me. Can they arrest me without proff, just because the bar tender said I must have drugged her that is why she was so drunk. Wouldn't they have to do a drug test at the hospital to see if she had any drugs in her system. And if she did maybe they were hers. I just met her for the first time tonight. I am very worried because I am appling for a new job and even if they arrest me abd find me not guilty I probably wouldn't get the job with an arrest on my record.

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I was date raped 24 years ago. I found the rapist on facebook

I was date raped 24 years ago. I found the rapist on facebook and told him how damaged I was living with this my entire life. He acknowledged in a message (that I took pictures of and still have on my computer) back that he felt horrible for what he did and he will have to live with it the rest of his life, especially having a daughter. This occured in Kansas and I saw that the statute of limitations has been lifted a few weeksa ago. I never went to the police because I lived in a "good ole boy" community and my father's business would have been destroyed, as the rapist's family was upstanding and wealthy in our community. By the time I thought of doing it, after moving away, I had missed the statute of limitations. I know I don't have enough evidence to get him prosecuted criminally, but could I go after him in a civil suit? He is prominent in his community and sitting pretty, while I have spent more than half of my life suffering the effects of this crime with anxiety, counseling and depression. I feel like he should pay somehow. I know he would settle out of court, as to not damage his family's reputation, and has a load of money. Is there a case here?Would I have to have my name published too, since I was a minor when it happened. I am still that scared of my community- just not him.

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How can rape be proved when it happened during a relationship

How can rape be proved when it happened during a relationship and not reported (immediately)? I suppose it can't but counselors ask if you want to press charges about something like that.

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TexCrimLawyer, J.D.

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well i was dumb and talked to the police. i was panicked. im

well i was dumb and talked to the police. i was panicked. im a 20 year old male. married. never been in trouble but i know they i didnt give them incrimnating evidance. i didnt do any thing wrong i feel. but i know before i was arrested that the police had the accuser do a pretext phone call wich i restated the truth that i had told her the night it happened. the event was to long ago for text to have been saved, i dont know if they pulled my texts records from cell phone provider. but based off what i have told you. you think it will be difficult for a DA(once my case gets assigned one that is) to convict on these rediculus charges.

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i am being charged with rape. the female and i are really good

i am being charged with rape. the female and i are really good friends. had a few drinks and we hooked up. she didnt remember what happened when she woke up so i told her and she requested me to buy the plan B pill and so i did. she took it and we agreed to squash it. we continued to be friends and work together as if nothing happened and a month later she claimed rape and i was arrested. ive never been in trouble with the law. im in the us army. based on this. is that sufficiant enough to press charges and to convict or will charges get droped?

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your statement true without att. others involved statements

your statement true without att. others involved statements lies 4-5 times your assigned public att. DA new wants conviction. vicXXXXX XXXXXes story3-4 times because IRS issues and waits a week to report your info stays true NO deal offered Your testamony is most of the case Plea deal or keep mouth shut public defender not really communicating on whats going on lamb to the slaughter what to do

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Law Educator, Esq.

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My adult son is being accused of raping an adult woman who

My adult son is being accused of raping an adult woman who he thought was his friend. THey are both deaf and communicate by sign language. They have been acquaintances for a couple of years. THis past year they met again and started communicating via video phone. She was out of state working and just returned this past month. WHile she was out of state they communicated via video phone for hours several nights a week. She asked him to keep these visits a secret from mutual friends. While home, they met at a mutual friends house (she drove herself) and were intimate. She states she never signed no to him and never gave an indication that she wanted him to stop. She became angry with him only after he told her friend they were intimate. My son thought she had broke up with her old boyfriend but when he found out she started crying rape. What do we do? He has not been served and is not sure she filed a complaint but mutual friends said she was going to. What can we expect?

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