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My ex husband is the custodial parent, there is no

Hello,My ex husband is the custodial parent, there is no communications clause in our divorce decree defining when I can speak with the children on the phone. He moved 5 hours away from here and therefore it has become much more important to be able to talk to the kids over the phone. He has not one time answered the phone when I call, & it would take 3 or 4 days for the kids to call me back, if they even did (kids are: 14 & 9). To try and help the situation, I requested that we set a time each week for the kids to call, which he agreed upon as Sunday nights. They have called every Sunday as agreed for the last month. The catch is that they make the kids call me while they are in the car, with my ex & his girlfriend every time. Absolutely no privacy. This is the only time I am able to talk to the kids. I have called 4 times in the last few weeks during the week & got no response. I asked to set up a time through the week and his girlfriend messaged me back, telling me the kids are too busy through the week to set up a time- but they could call anytime they had free all they had to do was ask. The one time my son called, we talked for five minutes and then she came and told him she needed her phone. I need some advice. I plan on trying to modify the order once we reach the one year mark in Feb. Until then, what can I do? I understand they are not technically in violation of the order, but this is not right. It is bad for the kids, I think there is definite Parental Alienation going one and I am worried. Any help will be much appreciated. Thank you!

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I have had primary custody of my 9 year old for seven years

I have had primary custody of my 9 year old for seven years but sharing joint custody. The parental plan is for her visitation every other week and Wednesdays. She is bi polar, borderline personality disorder. She has been in the hospital once this year for suiciadal tendencies. Over the last month she has been threatening suicide giving me full custody or even checking back into the hospital. All documented in text messages. This last week has been hell, I have not denied her visitation however she has given it up several times. My son does not want to go to her house anymore. She constantly harasses me and accuses me of child alienation although she is kept up to date on everything going on in his life. He says that she sleeps for hours at a time and lets him watch Hard R rated movies while sleeping. He has come to me crying due to the guilt he feels for watching them. Deadpool and KickAss super hero movies which I said no way never they are adult films hiding behind the super hero genere. Sorry for the long intro but it is relevant. What do I need to do to stop all of this? I'm suffering from the constant texting and harassment and he wants nothing to do with her. Do I need to file for full custody or what recourse do I need to take that is beneficial for my son? He is scared of her and afraid to talk to her says she is always yelling. I told her this and she goes crazy on me with this child alienation stuff. I don't know what to do.She is always depressed and has confided in me until this last week. What is best for me to do?

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Background: I divorced in NC State, wake country, 5 years

Background:I divorced in NC State, wake country, 5 years ago. I pay child support for two children 11 and 16. MY ex wife works 5 days a week at a hair salon. Child support calculations using the NC State Child Support worksheet show I owe 1800 a month. I pay $2000 a month.Problem:She wants to hire a nanny and pays her $250 / week. approximately $1000 a month. IF she does this, does it count as a child care expense in the NC State Child Support Worksheet. What is a reasonable child care expense for an 11 year old and 16 year old when the mother works during the day and has the kids full time?

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NYFamilyLawyer

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My daughter is 17 with a newborn she lives at home the boy

My daughter is 17 with a newborn she lives at home the boy that got her pregnant his parents are wanting a DNA test and true joint custody we are planning to relocate to Michigan my concerns are after this is all over will we be able to relocate to MichiganJA: Have you talked to a lawyer yet?Customer: We are in the process of it we have one scheduled for WednesdayJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: The father of the newborn has shown very little interest in her

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If my wife and i are separated, and she moves with my 2.5

If my wife and i are separated, and she moves with my 2.5 year old son out of state, do i give up all parental right automatically?

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If a non-custodial parent has not utilized their supervised

If a non-custodial parent has not utilized their supervised visitation in 3 years and is now contacting to seek to utilize next week what are my options?JA: What state are you in? It matters because laws vary by location.Customer: IllinoisJA: Has anything been filed or reported?Customer: noJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: The child is no longer aware of who they are would no longer be able to recognize them or pick them out of a line-up.

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In the summer of 2015 my ex quit his well paying job to

Hi! In the summer of 2015 my ex quit his well paying job to potentially become the owner of a deli, that fell through and he went into construction. We went to court for child support and the judge went by his original jobs income averaged with what he stated he made then. Resulting in $175 in child support bein paid a week. Now, a year later, he's taking me back saying he went from making $1000 a week to $400 (with 2 other kids in addition to the one we have together) and wants his child support obligation reduced. I KNOW he makes more than that and he told my daughter he opened his own licensed and insured contracting company and gave her business cards to hand out!! My question is am I crazy to believe ANY judge will see through this??? How is he supporting 3 kids on $400 a week $175 of which has been paid to me?? What can I do to prove he's hiding something?!JA: Because family law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in? When we are ready I'll take you to the appropriate web page. Have you talked to a laywer yet?Customer: NyJA: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: Not that I can think of

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LawInfo411

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I owe over 5k in child support, but my child is now over the

I owe over 5k in child support, but my child is now over the age of 18. I just received a letter in the mail a "Good Cause" letter. I reached out the the attorney and he said they no longer will pursue but that other agency's might. Should I just go ahead and pay the amount or do I run the risk of getting into a lot of trouble here if I dont pay?

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I want a straight forward answer whether it's favorable for

I want a straight forward answer whether it's favorable for me or not. My ex tried to lower child support a year ago and in mediation we agreed to lower it a little but not by much because the actual calculations were way too significant of a difference. My lawyer was able to convince him that he would spend way more going to court vs the difference in lowering payment so he agreed to deviate again.Now, he is moving closer and wants to file to lower support again. He says this time he will take it to court instead of settling in mediation again bc he felt pressured last time. So, my question is, if my ex won't agree to a deviated amount of support in mediation will a judge typically cut a child support payment in half? My lawyer told my ex that judges won't let the custodial parent go from getting $800 a month to $400 a month no matter what. Is this true? My ex has never missed a child support payment and appears to be living very well from what I can tell; however, if we were to base child support off the IN child support calculator he would only be obligated to may me less than $100 a week which is significantly lower. I know he can affird child support as it is now but the calculator shows he is significantly overpaying due to his previously agreed deviation. I just want to be able to prepare myself for what will most likely happen.

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